Heal from Infidelity

Clear, open communication can be a hard skill to learn for anyone, but can be especially difficult for someone who has felt betrayed by their spouse. Yet it is a vital skill to learn, regardless of i…

How do we know if our spouse is taking responsibility for their infidelity? How do we know if we are really moving forward or just doing the same things we have always done? How long do we wait for s…

What if making mistakes is not a problem? What if the real problem is what we make those mistakes mean, or what others make them mean that we then internalize?

In this episode, I’ll uncover a few of …

In this episode, I’ll uncover why it feels safer to avoid wanting, and teach you what avoiding this question is costing you.

You’ll come away with some strategies to use to tap into your own desires …

Although many of my clients choose to stay with their spouses after infidelity, many decide to leave their marriages. Over time, some of them decide they want to start dating again. There is much fea…

When life as we know it is turned upside down, it becomes very easy to believe we are alone, powerless, and a victim to what has been handed us. While we have been the victim of the deception of anot…

Is it love or attachment? Many of my clients want to stay in their relationships because they can’t imagine life without the other. Or their spouse says they want to stay married but my clients don’t…

As parents, we naturally want to protect our children from hurt and pain. We want them to be happy and thriving, right? So when we are trying to make decisions like if we should stay married or not, …

Do you know how to question your own brain? Do you challenge your own thoughts? Some of us are pros at challenging others’ beliefs but struggle to challenge our own.

Learning to ask your own brain go…

Grief. It’s an emotion we all experience as part of life. If we form attachments to anything, we risk feeling grief if we lose the thing we are attached to.

Regardless if you choose to stay married o…

Are you good at showing compassion to others? How do you feel when someone else is suffering? For many of us, compassion for others comes naturally. But when it comes to self-compassion, it can be mu…

Most of us have been taught that we should decide what we want and need out of relationships, communicate those things to our partners, and expect them to come through for us. Unfortunately, this set…

Something I often hear from clients is that they just want closure. They want to hear the apology. Know why it happened. Be free from all of it so they can move forward. Sounds good, right?

We all wa…

Can you think of a decision you are putting off? Most of us aren’t very good at making decisions. We get in our own way by second-guessing ourselves, doubting our ability to decide, and worry about g…

We all like to know how things will turn out. Our brains crave certainty, and because of this we often believe that if we can control things, we can dictate how they will turn out. But there is a bet…

This week I am joined by Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to discuss the intricacies of infidelity. There are many misconceptions surrounding infidelity, and those misconceptions can keep you stuck. In this e…

In this episode, I share my thoughts on when it may be time to consider ending a marriage. Although in truth we can leave a marriage whenever we want, there are a few specific questions to evaluate w…

Do you know who you are? When is the last time you answered that question? Most of us go through life thinking that who we are is what others define us to be.

Knowing ourselves is the most important …

Most of us don’t know how to feel. We find all kinds of creative ways to block our emotions, mostly because we weren’t taught how to feel, or were shut down when we did express a feeling.

In this epi…

We all deal with problems in different ways, but attachment theory can shed some light on why you do the things you do, and why infidelity has affected you in the way that it has.

In this episode, yo…