Redemptive Living Radio

Looking for hope and redemption after sexual betrayal? Then this is the podcast for you! We’re Shelley and Jason Martinkus, authors of four books, including Worthy of Her Trust and we’ve been there. We’re nearly two decades into our own recovery work, and have dedicated our lives to helping other men, wives and marriages on the journey toward wholeness. With candor, vulnerability and authenticity we want to walk with you, too! Tune in as we address the highs and lows, the hard questions and the challenges couples face as they pursue redemptive living.

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Average duration: 36 minutes
Episodes: 102
Years Active: 2020 - 2025

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#22: Boundaries - The Third and Final (for now) Installment

Picking up where we left off in the last episode, we discuss what it looks like to really work at developing the “muscle” within all of us that alerts us to someone crossing into our hula hoops. Pra…

00:26:46 | Fri 29 Oct 2021

#21: Boundaries - The Convo Continues

Welcome to Season #3 of Redemptive Living Radio! We are looking forward to sharing more about recovery post-betrayal with you over the next 12 or so weeks!

In this episode, we are continuing the conv…

00:30:06 | Sat 23 Oct 2021

#20: Boundaries - An Introduction

In recovery, we talk about boundaries in two different ways - first, it’s how we define our “limits” in life. Sometimes people cross into our space and sometimes we cross into others' space. Recogniz…

00:31:29 | Fri 30 Apr 2021

#19: Sexual Abstinence in the Recovery Process

In this episode, we talk about the purpose of sexual abstinence or sexual fasting in the recovery process. Yes, it is important for rewiring the brain (for him) but it’s also important for learning …

00:29:30 | Fri 23 Apr 2021

#18: Changing How We See

When it comes to lust, we are missing the point if we are only focusing on eyes and mind. Lust is a heart and soul matter. Men have to decide - do I want to live with integrity and honor my wife? …

00:29:07 | Fri 16 Apr 2021

#17: Check-ins

Regular check-ins are a foundational tool for many couples in recovery. It was for us! in this episode we talk about how to view the check-ins (hint: its not a box to check!), how to approach them an…

00:35:43 | Fri 09 Apr 2021

#16: Sexual Integrity Issues vs. Sexual Addiction

In this episode we talk about the difference between integrity issues and addiction. For some wives the label of “addict” can bring relief, because the issue is a quantifiable and there is a plan for…

00:24:54 | Fri 02 Apr 2021

#15: His Early Work

We also wanted to shine the light on all the work that he is {hopefully} doing early on in recovery. Jason goes into some of the internal work he is doing that she might not see - fighting for his i…

00:26:14 | Fri 26 Mar 2021

#14: The Early Work for Her

So apparently men in Jason’s office say that they are doing a lot of the early work of recovery (not her). Not to start a fight or anything but…

We dig more into this during this episode of the pod. …

00:22:45 | Fri 19 Mar 2021

#13: Is it CoDependency? Or Trauma?

We dig into the trauma model versus the addiction model and of course take some rabbit trails and talk about things like vicarious trust, codependency, trauma and the Redemptive Living way of doing t…

00:26:46 | Fri 12 Mar 2021

#12: Equanimity

So our plan was to talk about the ins and outs of detachment for this last episode of season one. But first, I wanted to start with a quick question regarding equanimity in the recovery process. Simp…

00:31:13 | Sat 19 Dec 2020

#11: Listener Questions

We’ve received some great questions during this season of the podcast. We wanted to tackle as many of these as we could and didn’t get near as many answered as we wanted to but that’s okay. There (ho…

00:25:40 | Fri 11 Dec 2020

#10: Sitting on Secrets

Sitting on secrets is incredibly detrimental in the recovery process. We (actually, Jason) shares four main reasons that men choose to sit on secrets during the recovery process. In addition, he ta…

00:21:11 | Fri 04 Dec 2020

#9: This Isn't the Whole Story

In this episode, I (Shelley) share how difficult it is when my story of being a betrayed wife is the first thing that people know about me. We are so much more than this part of our stories, ladies. …

00:23:16 | Fri 20 Nov 2020

#8: Anxiety, Women's Intuition and Trust

In this episode, we discuss several strategies to mitigate anxiety during the recovery process. It’s fair to say we segue into some other topics - women’s intuition, women trusting other women, suppo…

00:21:22 | Fri 13 Nov 2020

#7: Toxic Shame and Biblical Shame

Did you know there are two different types of shame? There is toxic shame, which most of us refer to and talk about these days; and then there is Biblical shame. Shame is complicated, yáll, and becau…

00:26:05 | Fri 06 Nov 2020

#6: The Importance of Empathy (not Sympathy)

Have you heard him say - “I’m sorry I hurt you. You would be better off without me.” And it doesn’t actually help? This is because comments like this are enveloped in shame and are sympathetic, but n…

00:25:51 | Fri 30 Oct 2020

#5: When There Is No Good Answer

Piggy-backing off of the last episode, there are times when there is no good answer for the questions that she might be asking. This doesn't mean that the questions aren't worthwhile. Not even close …

00:17:24 | Fri 23 Oct 2020

#4: Why Did He Do This?

Why did he do this?If you haven’t already noticed, I like to give Jason a hard time (as you will hear a couple of times throughout this episode). He’s real patient with me and just rolls with it. He’…

00:24:06 | Fri 16 Oct 2020

#3: Navigating through Triggers in Public

We are back with a candid conversation about triggers. Have you heard of a trigger-squared? Well - it’s a real thing and we want to make sure that doesn’t happen so in this episode, we talk through s…

00:19:23 | Fri 09 Oct 2020

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