Redemptive Living Radio
Looking for hope and redemption after sexual betrayal? Then this is the podcast for you! We’re Shelley and Jason Martinkus, authors of four books, including Worthy of Her Trust and we’ve been there. We’re nearly two decades into our own recovery work, and have dedicated our lives to helping other men, wives and marriages on the journey toward wholeness. With candor, vulnerability and authenticity we want to walk with you, too! Tune in as we address the highs and lows, the hard questions and the challenges couples face as they pursue redemptive living.
- Update frequency
- every 7 days
- Average duration
- 36 minutes
- Episodes
- 102
- Years Active
- 2020 - 2025
#42: Intimacy Aversion - When He Is Withholding Sex
#41: When He Leaves Her Behind
#40: Mid-Recovery - Making the difference between surviving and thriving
In this episode - our special guest is struggling at the beginning of the episode. It doesn’t last long, thank goodness. Hang tight during the first couple of minutes. As for what we talk about: …
#39: Rebuilding Trust - The Practicalities
#38: Rebuilding Trust - Heart Attitude + Mindset
#37: Sexual Intimacy
In this episode - we talk about sexual intimacy post-betrayal. Here are just a couple of the things we discuss:
- Allow it to be wonky and work toward decreasing the pressure to make this part of th…
#36: Protecting Our Children
In this episode, we are going to skim the surface on how we as adults can protect our children from exposure to pornography. Please know that this isn’t a space where we need to judge each other but…
#35: Reintegrating the Dark Side
We start with a very quick appliance update even if Jason thinks nobody cares. I know otherwise!
As for the episode: Does your husband or x-husband tell you there is no reason to talk about the sex…
#34: Coming to a Crossroad
Okay, so let me first say - this episode was HARD to record. We had a ton of technical issues and didn’t realize not once, twice but THREE times that our recorder STOPPED recording WITHOUT us knowin…
#33: Dealing with Intrusive Thoughts
#32: Requests for Reassurance
In this week’s episode, we talk about what it looks like to provide reassurance in the recovery process. Sometimes we as wives will ask questions like - “Is everything okay?”, “what is going on?”, “…
#31: What to do When He Doesn’t Remember
In this week’s episode, we talk about our broken dryer, broken vacuum cleaner and how I (Shelley) still wear my athletic gear from two decades ago. Don’t worry, that only lasts a couple of minutes a…
#30: The Heart of Disclosure
In this week’s episode, we talk about the heart behind Full Disclosure. Specifically common misconceptions, who it benefits, what it’s for, etc. We didn’t want to go into a ton of the logistics of …
#29: More Listener Questions
In this week’s episode, we continue with a couple of other listener questions. Get ready for me to not answer Jason’s questions and push back on some of what he is saying - he handles me well.
Here a…
#28: How to Navigate the Pool or Beach
In this week’s episode, we address listener questions. Specifically, we address the possibility of enjoying a beach/pool day without it being triggering (which is the only listener question we got to…
#26: Healing from Acting In and Gaslighting
In this week’s episode we are going to talk about what it looks like to heal from Acting In / Intimacy Aversion.
Remember, Acting In consists of the techniques he uses to push her away in order to pr…
#25: Understanding Acting In and Gaslighting
In this week’s episode we discuss Acting In which is also called Intimacy Aversion. We also discuss Gaslighting, a close cousin to Acting In.
Intimacy Aversion is keeping others at arms length in or…
#24: When He is Dragging His Feet
In this episode, we talk about what to do if he is dragging his feet in recovery.
There are, in general, three archetypes on the spectrum of a man that is dragging his feet in recovery. On one end …
#23: Primary, Secondary and Tertiary Markers in Recovery
In this episode, we talk about getting out of the mindset that recovery is all about stopping a bad behavior. If the goal is to never act out again and nothing more - men are selling themselves shor…