Make Your Damn Bed

"I am sure that we will recognize that there are some things in our society, some things in our world, to which we should never be adjusted. There are some things concerning which we must always be m…

Peace does not always represent justice or equity. Sometimes, it's good to be agitated. I think we can be hopeful AND angry. I truly believe there is room for both.

“The challenge for us... is not to…

"Studies reveal a recipe for disagreeing better:

1. Good disagreers ask questions instead of making statements.
2. They work to get underneath people’s opinions to their stories.
3. When they spot common ground,…

"Ernest Hemingway once said, "The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them." He was half right. Trust doesn't just teach us about people; it changes them. It's a gift they repa…

"Any of us can seek out more accurate, less cynical news. But don't forget that the stories you tell influence others, too. Gossip is our ancient media, and someone is probably tuned in to yours. Try…

Researchers find that people regularly fail to realize how charitable, trustworthy, and compassionate others are. Helpers are all around; we just don’t see them. Some of these mistakes reflect how ou…

"Cynics often get people wrong, but that doesn’t mean it’s smart to put faith in everyone, all the time. Skeptics update their beliefs based hundreds of children, and then checked in with them a year…

"Cynicism is the theory that people are selfish, greedy, and dishonest. Like any theory, it changes how we see reality and react to it—in this case, the social world. Cynicism changes how we think, w…

"Cynicism is an understandable response to injustice and inequality. But in many cases, it is misplaced. Dozens of studies find that people fail to realize how kind, generous, and open-minded others…

Today, we're reading the first few tips from "Eight Habits of Effective Bridge-Builders" and discussing what it means to build these habits.

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/ei…

Today, we're reading the first few tips from "Eight Habits of Effective Bridge-Builders" and discussing what it means to build these habits.

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/e…

Four Steps to Help People Feel Listened To:

• H = Hedge your claims, even when you feel very certain about your beliefs. It signals a recognition that there are some cases or some people who might suppo…

Grief isn’t linear. 

Grief doesn't happen in stages. 

Grief is chaotic. 

Grief convinces you that it’s all encompassing. 

There’s no right or wrong way to grieve (aside from the obvious). 

Be gentle with …

I recently received a request for resources on grief and loss, and I’ve collected a lot over the years because I’ve never been the most efficient at dealing with my grief; and although I don’t think …

 I recently received a request for resources on grief and loss, and I’ve collected a lot over the years because I’ve never been the most efficient at dealing with my grief; and although I don’t think…

 I recently received a request for resources on grief and loss, and I’ve collected a lot over the years because I’ve never been the most efficient at dealing with my grief; and although I don’t think…

In 1998, Psychologist Roy Baumeister conducted a foundational study that showed decision-making depletes cognitive resources, much like physical exertion depletes muscles.

Baumeister’s studies found …

Years ago, when I was grieving the loss of a very serious break up, I was explaining to a friend that the grief was really intense not only because I was grieving a loss of this, but I was also griev…

Today we revisit an episode from March 2023:

what does survival mode look like for you? how can we get out of the patterns that put us into our default mode?

we've all experienced stress, but when st…

Today we revisit an episode from March 2023:

Every single one of us has experienced some level of trauma. We're only capable of acting and responding at the level we're internally ready for. Practici…