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A sub calls in wondering how to maintain a 24/7 spark when sometimes all you wanna do is curl up on the couch and cuddle. Spoiler alert: kink and the couch may not be as at odds with each other as we…

Trying to keep your kink gendy-neutch? Means of address can go a long way in creating that euphoric safe space for you. This week we’re bringing you some Pride aftercare in the form of means of addre…

Lina comforts a listener who’s seeking insight into the parallels between bi+ and non-monogamous identities. Lina also takes a second to address the difference between “unicorn hunters” and bi+ peopl…

Zachary Zane, author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto stopped by to talk about bisexual sluttiness, rejecting bi assimilationism, and his hairy butthole. We had a ton of fun breaking down bi stereo…

Sometimes it can be hard for us bi girls to name what we want and go after it, and this week Lina is unpacking all the varying forces that go into this common quandary. 

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A bi-for-bi open marriage, crossdressing, and a series of passionate artistic love affairs — no, it’s not 2023, it’s 1923! On this month’s pride minisode I’m bringing you the story of bisexual it gir…

A Dom calls in wondering how to navigate his sub’s dynamic with another Dom, and Lina talks about primary partner veto, as well as the ins and outs of navigating side-by-side dynamics. (Our deepest a…

Hear all about the varied kink lives of our ask a sub community! From single folks to people married with kids, kink is a living, breathing practice that meets us where we are and infuses our lives w…

This week we’re naming and confronting the pessimism that makes us think all potential sex partners are trash, then discussing what good, real Doms are actually like! They’re out there!

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Today we’re reclaiming our erotic power and studying a holy trinity of queer feminist writers: Adrienne Rich, Audre Lorde, and Gloria Anzaldúa. 

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A new sub wants to know how to manage jealousy when you're monogamous and your partner isn't. Aka, where is your place in the kink community if not at the so-called "cool kid's table?" Well, it's rig…

Join me and Luna Matatas for a discussion all about cultivating body confidence in a messed up world! 

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A sub wants to know how to communicate their changing needs in a longterm relationship, and Lina equips them with proactive, active, and reactive tools for sharing feedback and keeping the D/s contai…

A tour through the literary origins of masochism, as well as some modern mythbusting for the masochistically inclined.

Get my full interview with Leigh Cowart, author of Hurts So Good: The Science an…

Today we’re tackling the question of how to share kink resources with vanilla people you encounter in your dating travels, strategies for protecting your energy as you do so, and how to hold out hope…

Safe Slut joined me to tell me all about her dating life as an HSV+ queen, shared her thoughts on disclosure, and gave us some insight into her first date rituals. Spoiler alert: an HSV diagnosis isn…

A sub wants to know how to bring forward feminine energy and suppress the masculine during aftercare. Lina’s response? Gender is fake, privilege is real, and pegging your Dom is a submissive act. How…

Cue up some disco and put on your finest assless chaps, we’re taking a walking tour through the heart of leather culture in the 1970’s - San Francisco’s South of Market neighborhood (home of Folsom S…

Today’s episode is all about feeling your feelings. One sub asks whether it’s possible to introduce kink to her partner in a non-sexual context, while another wants to know how to react in a subby wa…

On this month's Deep Dive interview, Brat Whisperer Lola Jean joins me to talk all about how to find your inner brat and, more importantly, negotiate the conditions that will allow (controlled, joyfu…