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Hey, it's your real life calling! The one where you're not sleeping on an air mattress in a musty basement bracing yourself to hear your Uncle Jim's conspiracy theories at the dinner table! You -- ye…

A listener wants to know the answer to a so-called googleable question - what the heck is a play party, exactly? Lina answers & gives tips on navigating these experiences once you find the right one.

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Are you or a loved one affected by Goodest Girl Syndrome, aka the desire to be the absolute best in comparison to all your partner’s other partners past, present & future? Tune in for solace, solidar…

This month’s Deep Dive was with boudoir photographer and all around artiste Alex Kacha. We discussed self care, the healing gaze of the camera, and of course the kinkiest shoots they’ve ever done!

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A sub loves the play parties she attends with her Dom, but is struggling with watching him play with his primary partner. Can this cozy polycule find a way forward that honors her boundaries?

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What do you do when a very special dynamic leaves your life? This week a broken-hearted brat wants to know how to move on in the wake of a great love lost. 

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Cue up some disco and put on your finest assless chaps, because we’re reviewing the history of The Folsom Street Fair, then we’re taking a walking tour of the heart of leather culture in the 1970’s -…

If you’re reading this, you have a pelvic floor! And Dr. Rachel McCarthy-Moya is here to tell you all about it. Listen for her take on kegels (do less of them), your pelvic floor's relationship to ca…

A refresher on red flags and the radical notion that you don’t have to put up with assholes to get your kink needs met.

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Thoughts on respecting all the connections in your polyamorous ecosystem when the sub swoons come calling.

Our next Deep Dive is on 9/12 at 3pm with pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Rachel McCarth…

A listener wants to know how to navigate putting a dynamic on pause when one partner is Going Through It, and Lina offers ideas about boundaries and points of connection for the supporting partner.

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Vienna Farlow The Cuntsultant dropped by for an interview about the Fertility Awareness Method and the weird shift from not wanting to get pregnant to wanting to, and how to actually do it (or not do…

This week we're talking about how to approach conflict in a way that honors your D/s dynamic. So few of us have learned any strategies for respectful conflict, and translating the few we have into D/…

Hurts So Good author Leigh Cowart joined me for a conversation about pervertibles, aka making kink tools out of what you've got on hand! We also talked about the ever-moving goal posts of masochism a…

A new kinkster asks Lina about the “empty headed feeling” that follows her scenes, and Lina explains how subby headspace can be anti-capitalist… and good for you!

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Have you noticed online is just getting worse and worse? This week, kink celebrity and YouTuber Evie Lupine joins me to talk about how kinky people have seen this coming for miles, and what internet …

Sometimes parting is just too much sorrow! This week Lina equips a listener with a strategy for lessening the blow of transitioning back into vanilla life without your Dom, and ask the question… mayb…

Lina interviews a listener who got in touch to share the story of her custody battle with her sex-negative ex-husband, and the unexpected win that arrived at the end of her story.

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