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A sub calls in wondering what to do when you’ve been in multiple relationships where the kink slowly vanishes over time. Are you going crazy?? No, this is a disappointingly common thing, and Lina’s g…

You guys — we did it — we trapped a true switch for switch poly couple with our big butterfly net and dove deep into their deeply respectful and inspiring relationship. Join us for a convo with chari…

Get your spot in the Conscious Kink 2 Incubator and learn more about it here. Registration ends 9/27 at 11:59pm pacific. 

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We’ve all been there — an on again, off again dynamic that keeps us trapped in a cycle where we feel that person is the one who can unlock the sex life we really want, if only they’d switch back to “…

More and more D/s couples are having to put their dynamics on pause lately, and we want to give you the tools to find your way back to each other. This week, Lina’s talking about the integral role of…

We talk a lot on this podcast about feeling “queer enough,” and a straight passing queer couple wonders how to feel more at home in queer spaces. Lina affirms that they’re allowed to be there, and an…

Writer, educatrix, and all around kink community badass Tina Horn joined us to talk all about hardcore kinks and fetishes and how we sort kinks into this category. Her new book Why Are People Into Th…

GENDER!! Ever hear of it?! Lina’s popping off on the presidential election, right-wing weird shit, and the subtle leak of conspirituality-adjacent terms like ‘divine masculine & feminine’ into sex ed…

In a transmission from God’s hot car, Lina discusses the relationship between kink and chronic pain, and advises a Spoonie who’s playing with a doctor to enjoy the free medical care without shame.

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We all know about Fake Doms, people on dating apps who co-opt the language of BDSM to push a misogynistic agenda, but what about when the messaging of manipulation is more subtle, and even uses sex p…

Why are subs and kinky people so prone to tripping out on what the future could be? Well, as the saying goes, subs plan and Doms laugh at our anticipatory anxiety. Lina also discusses how marriage an…

Dogs and cats, living together, mass hysteria! When can a sub be a Dom? A caller wants to know when their Dommy tendencies qualify them to start switchin’, and how their neurodivergent brain can deal…

In this preview of Deep Dive, Lina chats with Casey Tanner, @queersextherapy, about their new book Feel It All. Topics covered include defining secure sexuality and the origins of insecure sexuality …

What happens when you’re criss crossing all your red string a la Charlie Day while researching D/s to broaden the scope of your dynamic, but your Dom just won’t click the links you send? Lina talks t…

This month for pride, join your very own fave bisexual goblin for a wide ranging AMA! That’s right, I answered your q’s in real time just like the old days.

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This week, a married couple struggles with the ways D/s sometimes outwardly looks like the oppressive gender roles they were raised with, and have been fighting their whole relationship.

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Lina gives some tender yet protective advice to a 20-year-old sub looking to start their kink journey.

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R.O. Kwon stopped by the pod this week to talk about her new book Exhibit, a tale about kink, queerness, and what happens when people pursue that which they truly desire. 

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Our Deep Dive guest this month is many things — a kink/rope organizer, an amazing friend, a top-tier emoji-reactor, and a Ask A Sub discord moderator that has been with us since the beginning of the …

A sub calls in wondering how to “do” submission right, and Lina shares some wisdom about how to avoid submissive doing and embrace submissive being.

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