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Margeaux Feldman joined me for a deep dive into their work around trauma, sexuality, chronic illness, and queerness. Get Margeaux’s upcoming book ‘Touch Me I’m Sick’ at your local indie bookstore or …

Today Lina reads a piece that’s popping off on her substack about the intersection of The Hunting Wives, Susan Sontag, fascism, and Leather aesthetics. Why are we horny for what scares us? Well step …

A caller has gone no contact with her parents and wants to know how to be mindful with not projecting that trauma on her Daddy Dom. As a bit of an expert on this topic, Lina discusses the ins and out…

It’s summer. It’s hot. It’s sexy. And what’s more hot and sexy than… endless scheduling and calendars? A caller wants to know how to stay sane while single and it seems that everyone in the dating po…

We got a write-in question from a Patreon member wondering how to prepare for a big public kink event like Folsom, and Lina gets into creating a plan for regulation, connection, and what to do when y…

Hey it’s the episode where you write in and ask about the light or deep kink questions that are on your mind! Today we’re talking about how being a human ottoman can activate your parasympathetic ner…

What do online privacy, sex work decrim, fire butt pix, and clowns have in common? Well they’re all special interests of our Deep Dive guest this month — Gutter! Gutter is one of our long time modera…

Should we keep our friendships separate from our D/s dynamics? Should we merge all our relationships, friendships, and situationships into the world's largest cuddle puddle? What can we learn, aside …

ISN’T BEING AN OPEN-HEARTED AND EVOLVED HUMAN SO FUN??? HAHA Well this week we’re talking about what to do when your partner is in love, not forcing yourself to feel compersion before you’re ready, a…

The first brick at Stonewall. The repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”. Obergefell v. Hodges. What better way to commemorate these extremely profound and meaningful moments in the history of the struggl…

How do we advocate for our desires the same way we advocate for our limits? How do we see ourselves as valid even if we’re bedroom-only? How can a safe word be heard through a ball gag? Lina has prac…

A caller wants to know what to do when a threesome fantasy about a friend becomes a sudden turn-off. Lina does some Ick Forensics™️ on what could be bothering them, and breaks down the realities of b…

Today Lina answers one of life’s age old questions, one that’s debated frequently in a public forum much like the God question or origins of the universe — should Doms be subs before they Dom? Togeth…

Sydney Baloue is a writer, performer, event producer and advocate for racial, social, and gender justice, LGBTQ+ rights, and for trans-masculine visibility in voguing, boxing and in the film and tele…

A long-married caller wants to know how to jumpstart a 24/7 dynamic with a partner who may have some reservations. Lina validates that your 24/7 dynamic is supposed to breathe with you, not suprise c…

Ok so I’ve brought you into my basement, tied you to a chair, fixed a single lightbulb on you, put my spiky boot between your legs, leaned in real close, and now I’m gonna scream “YOU’RE PERFECT AS Y…

In this new monthly series Lina is answering quick text-based q’s from paid members and bringing them to the public feed! This month we’re talking about vetting questions to identify inexperienced Do…

Activist and writer Michelle Tea joined me this month to vulnerably discuss the places magic intersects with lineage, life, and sex. We transitioned into a bit of a slumber party tee-hee-ing about th…

A caller wants to know how to repair their relationship with their mind and body after a breakup. Lina’s take? Don’t let your drive to be considerate and ethical override your humanity. Feel it, be m…

Craving a broad introduction to fear play? I bet you are you sick freak!! In this lesson, I mean episode, Lina talks about the classics of fear play: knives, cages, trampling, and even really really …