Wholehearted Loving

When we experience trauma, and all that follows, our bodies respond in ways that can feel overwhelming and difficult to be with. Tools that comfort and soothe our nervous systems are helpful for thes…

It can feel so hard when others have something we want deeply for ourselves, or when we feel like we don’t measure up — to others, or to our own expectations. The ways we compare ourselves have deep …

Every family has ways of connecting (and disconnecting) that are particular to them — and it’s within our family systems that we learned how to relate with the world. Rediscovering family dynamics in…

The difference between resistance and wholehearted givin’er is stark — where the latter means *nothing will stop you*.

Resistance takes many forms — from thoughts and fears to physical symptoms and …

We're all subject to the expectations of society, our families, and ourselves — as well as to the biological realities of our bodies and the imperatives of procreation. There are so many “shoulds” an…

Our relationships with distraction, derailing rumination, and focus are inextricably linked with the states of our nervous system. We all have the power to rewire our systems and our behaviour patter…

Inner work and therapies can take us to dark places, processing times of trauma, tragedy, and discomfort in our lives — with much focus on childhood and family dynamics. It can be easy to overlook th…

We all contain aspects that we’ve learned to suppress for fear of losing love, connection or approval. And we all observe aspects in others that we find unpalatable, or irritating, as a result — thes…

We all have beliefs about reality — and those are what we project onto the world and the people around us. What we see in others is also within us. It can be easy to field someone’s projections when …

There’s a great irony in many societies, where we (sometimes inadvertently) shame others in order to diffuse our own shame. We also employ shame to teach each other lessons, and in the misguided hope…

One year into this podcast, and with many years of facilitating transformational groups under our belts, we can tell you that maps and plans can be helpful — but they’ve got nothing on real self-awar…

In today’s hustle-forward society, napping can be frowned upon — or reserved only for specific people, places, or times. Maybe a power nap feels acceptable, while a siesta only feels allowable while …

Our bodies contain so much wisdom, and can connect us with so much information. The natural tendency to identify and fall into patterns is also contained in our bodies...and is totally optional! ⁠

If…

For better and for worse, our minds get involved with every aspect of our lives, including personal growth work. In today's episode, we talk about discovering ourselves more deeply, connecting with o…

We all cope with fear, confusion and big feelings in a handful of ways that are common to us all. Taking stock of the tools you use — what’s helpful and what isn’t — is an important step in embracing…

We protect ourselves from fear, pain and uncertainty using various psychological coping mechanisms like denial — and we manage our emotional turmoil by displacing words and energy, and projecting our…

Today's episode is a practice in showing up as you are and comforting yourself through hard times. We use a real life example to talk about the (often unhelpful) meaning we make during conflict, how …

In today's episode we talk about part of John Wellwood's book Love and Awakening — where he likens us to castles, with thousands of rooms. The rooms represent our many aspects, many of which we close…

In today's episode we dig into Dr. Raja Selvam's list of psychological defenses against emotions as presented in his book The Practice of Embodying Emotions — specifically, the first two items: repre…