The Secure Husband

Most husbands feel lost when their wife pulls away, shuts down, or shows no affection. The first reaction is usually to fix it, explain it, or control it. But real change starts somewhere else.

In thi…

If your wife talks down to you, mocks you, or shuts you out — you may feel angry, helpless, or ready to explode. But reacting to disrespect with more disrespect does not fix anything. It only creates…

If you stay quiet, give her what she wants, and ignore your needs… will that make your marriage stronger? No. It makes you disappear.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why self…

You can’t control your wife.
You can’t control her mood, her actions, or how she feels.
But you can control yourself. And that changes everything.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we talk …

You didn’t choose her because you were sure.
You chose her because she saw you.
And in that moment, it felt like everything you ever wanted.

This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast speaks to the man …

You wanted closeness. She needed space.
You chased love. She pulled away.
Now you feel stuck — and you don’t know why.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why anxious (preoccupied)…

Your wife shuts down when you open up.
She pulls away when things get close.
You feel like you’re always chasing her attention.

And now you’re asking:
“Is this what love is supposed to feel like?”

In this…

You’ve stayed calm.
You’ve stopped chasing.
You’ve led your emotions instead of reacting.

But your wife still feels cold.
She still doesn’t respond.
And now you’re wondering…

“What if I’m doing all this wo…

You think your wife doesn’t want you anymore.
She never starts sex.
She’s not like she used to be.

So you feel rejected, confused, and hurt.

But what if there’s nothing wrong with her — or you?
What if sh…

Have you ever said, “Maybe we should open the marriage,” hoping to make your wife feel guilty?

Or maybe you’ve said, “I guess I’ll just find someone else who wants me.”

If so, this video is for you.

The…

You finally have sex with your wife… but she’s quiet. Still. Emotionally checked out.

You wonder:
“Does she even want me?”
“Is this pity sex?”
“Why does this feel worse than no sex at all?”

In this episod…

Do you keep escaping into porn, fantasy, or daydreams about someone else when your marriage feels distant or disconnected?

You’re not alone.

But those escapes — while they feel good for a moment — are …

Do you feel jealous when your wife smiles at another man?
Or when she laughs at her phone and it’s not a text from you?
Does your mind go to:
“Is she pulling away?”
“Is there someone else?”
“Am I being re…

You want sex. She doesn’t.
You feel confused, rejected, and maybe even ashamed.

You wonder:
“Why doesn’t she want me like I want her?”
“Is something wrong with me… or her?”

In this episode of The Secure H…

You do something nice.
You help around the house.
You give a compliment or say “I love you.”

But deep down, you’re hoping she gives something back — maybe sex, affection, or appreciation.

That’s called g…

If you’ve ever said:

“Why don’t you want me?”

“You never initiate anymore.”

“You’d have sex with me if you really loved me…”

This episode is for you.

Guilt does not create intimacy. It creates pressure.
An…

You’ve been told real men always sacrifice. That setting boundaries is cold. That taking care of yourself is selfish.

But here’s the truth:
Self love is not selfish. Self love is not narcissistic. Self…

Thinking about starting over with someone new?
Feeling tired, disconnected, or done with your marriage?
This episode is your wake-up call.

In today’s video, we talk about a truth most men miss:

👉 You can…

If you feel starved without touch… you’re not weak.
You’re human.

This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast is for the man who feels like he can’t live without affection. You feel the pain of not bein…

You are the only one in charge of your happiness.
But your energy still shapes your marriage every single day.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we break down the truth that many men miss:
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