The Dildorks

Happy new year! This week we’re discussing some of the big changes we experienced in our sex, kink, and dating lives this past year.
 

How Was 2023? | Sex & Kink Changes | Flure App | New Things We Tri…

Happy holidays, friends! This week we’re answering listener questions about navigating sex, kink, and relationships around the holidays.
 

Holiday Complaints | Seasonal Roleplays | Hometown Hookup | Lo…

It can be tricky to determine your sex/kink compatibility with someone you’ve just started flirting with, so this week we’re offering advice on just that.

Favorite Pokémon | Sex Journalist Mode | Whe…

This week Kate chats with Sage Monroe, a phone sex operator and consultant, about the ups and downs of the phone sex business.
 

Getting Into It | Professional vs. Not | Boundaries & Limits | Self-Care…

Since the month is almost done, this week we’re examining the practice of No Nut November and the community around it.

Unfortunate Origins | Masturbation & Porn Addiction | Intentions | The Rules | E…

If your libido’s low right now, you’re not alone. This week we’re talking about periods of diminished sexual desire and what we like to do about them.

Montreal Trip | Out of Practice | Predictable? |…

Ever heard of Locktober, the month-long chastity challenge? Kate’s spouse mb recently did it (with Kate as keyholder) and in this episode, the two of them discuss the experience and give advice for p…

Happy Halloween! This week we’re addressing some seasonal sexy inquiries, about fear play, haunted houses, Chewbacca masks, and more.

Turned On By A Costume | Haunted Houses | Mask Safety | Fetish Dr…

This week we’re answering listener questions on erotica and fanfiction!

Pearl Necklace Bondage | Finding Kinky & Trans Authors | Heckin’ Lewd | Nerve Endings | Re-Reading | Is Fanfic Just Better? | I…

This week we’re discussing our current relationships to erotica and fanfiction, since Kate just had a story published in Rachel Kramer Bussel’s new erotica anthology Sexy Strangers!
 

Erotica vs. Real …

We’re back to talk about polyamory boundary violations some more this week.
 

Cuckolding | Whose Responsibility Is It? | Downstairs DJ’s No Nut November Coin | Kink Rituals | Resentment | Partner Pursu…

It can be tough to recover when someone violates a relationship agreement in polyamory, but there are ways to prevent this from happening, or to repair after it does. This week we’re talking about bo…

This week we’re discussing some unique fetishes that have been posted about on the /r/Sex subreddit recently, including belly buttons, Speedos, and freckles.
 

The Evolution of Fetish Discourse | Scree…

Limiting one or more senses can have a big effect on how you experience sex and kink. This week we’re talking about sensory deprivation play!

Using Blindfolds | Nidra Deep Rest Eye Mask | Anxiety | B…

There’s a lot of debate right now about sex scenes in movies and TV, so this week we’re discussing whether sex scenes are necessary, what makes a great one (or a terrible one), and which ones are our…

Being an online creator can feel quite exhibitionistic at times, and not always in a sexy way. This week we’re discussing the ups and downs of being very visible online.

Not Doin’ Too Good | Personas…

This week we’re discussing “sex moves” that have been propagated by the internet, like the shocker, the rusty trombone, and the knee trick.
 

Are “Moves” Helpful? | Licking the Alphabet | “Come Hither”…

This week we’re parsing the differences between limits, boundaries, and dealbreakers – and explaining some of our own rules in each category.
 

Definitions | Boundaries vs. Rules | Hard vs. Soft Limits…

We’re discussing safewords again this week, including how to know when to safeword, how to safeword if you tend to go non-verbal during scenes, and how doms and tops can safeword too.
 

Going Nonverbal…

Safewords are an important tool for many kinksters, so this week we’re discussing what safewords are, when they’re useful, and some tips on how to use them well.
 

Consensual Non-Consent | What is a Sa…