The Dildorks

Sometimes. paradoxically, it’s fun to suffer! This week we’re talking about suffering in a kink context: why we (sometimes) like it, how to do it safely, and how it differs from plain ol’ sadomasochi…

It can be embarrassing (or hot! or both!) to come at the “wrong” time. This week we’re talking about inopportunely-timed orgasms, why they can be sexy as hell, and how to navigate any shame or awkwar…

Roleplay is a big part of both our sex/kink lives, but what does it actually mean to play a role? This week we’re diving into the intricacies of playing a character in scenes.

Full-Time Daddy-Domming…

Happy Valentine’s Day to all who celebrate! This week we’re discussing the pros and cons of this “Hallmark holiday” and answering listener questions about Valentine’s celebrations.
 

Sex Toy Retail | H…

Even though we both make sex media, we’ve both felt pressured to “sanitize” what we do from time to time. This week we discuss professionalism, personas, posting nudes on main, and other aspects of t…

Why are dating apps so bad?! This week, we discuss some of our issues with dating apps and (maybe) some ways to work around these problems.
 

Fake Profiles | Dopamine Hit | Gamification & Capitalism | …

Billy’s partner Dee Darkholme just got top surgery, so this week, the two of them discuss the process of deciding to get it, what the actual procedure was like, and how recovery has been.
 

The Basics …

We both want to do more butt stuff this year, so in this episode we discuss our experiences with anal play, our reasons for wanting more of it, and our tips for doing it well.

Pure Plugs | Our Butts’…

What did we accomplish sexually in 2022, and what are our sex & kink goals for 2023? This week we’re discussing all that, plus our best sex sessions of the year.

“Amateur” Porn | Best Sex | A Good Di…

Happy new year! This week we’re reflecting on our sex/kink/dating lives in 2022: new things we tried, new toys we enjoyed, new fantasies we couldn’t stop thinking about, etc.

Biggest Differences | Ne…

This week we had a wide-ranging discussion about “picking people up,” pickup artists, social skills, the ethics of seduction, building confidence, and more.
 

Solo Bar Dates | “If Books Could Kill” Epi…

How do you find kink implements that are both practical and pretty? This week we’re sharing our best tips for kink toy shopping, as well as sex toy storage.
 

Impulsive Purchases | Mass-Produced vs. In…

This week we offer our best advice on shopping for sex toys, interspersed with some anecdotes about our wacky days working in sex toy retail.
 

In-Person vs. Online | JoEllen Notte’s Superhero Sex Shop…

Is it safe to use a banana, an electric toothbrush, or a wooden spoon as a sex toy? This week, we’re discussing makeshift and homemade “sex toys”!
 

Why? | Defining Dildos | Our Experiences | Risk Fact…

Not everyone gets horny in the same way or at the same pace! This week we’re discussing the difference between responsive desire and spontaneous desire, and how to be respectful of your partner’s des…

Navigating conflict is one of the trickiest parts of being in a relationship, so this week we’re discussing our best tools and techniques for having hard conversations with loved ones.
 

Noticing the N…

This week we’re discussing more behaviors that might be cheating, or might not be – like keeping your ex’s nudes, neglecting to use condoms, or crushing on a friend.
 

Talk About It | Ex’s Stuff | Ex’s…

There’s a lot of confusion over what constitutes cheating on someone, so this week we’re discussing what we think cheating is, and what it definitely isn’t.
 

Not Monkeypox | Define “Cheating” | Mastur…

We’re releasing this bonus episode, originally recorded for our $12+ Patreon supporters, on our main feed this week because Billy is out sick. Enjoy our discussion about exhibitionism, hypnosis, roug…

What the hell is squirting, anyway? This week we discuss our experiences with squirting, our theories on the controversies that surround it, and our favorite toys and techniques for making it happen.
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