The Dildorks

This week we discuss some of our favorite things about sexting – like how it can build rapport, establish compatibility, and even increase your empathy.
 

Filling Time at Work | Why We Love Sexting | D…

This week, we answer more questions about asking questions – including questions that can help you suss out somebody’s politics or kinks, negotiate safer sex protocols, and (maybe) call the whole thi…

Diving deeper into our recent discussion on how curiosity is sexy, this week we discuss the practice of asking questions on dates: why it matters, why it’s hot, and what kinds of questions we like to…

Polyamorous dating can be pretty different depending on whether you’re single versus in a long-term relationship already; this week we discuss our experiences of both kinds.
 

Primary vs. Anchor | Hier…

This week we’re discussing some interesting and unusual fetishes we’ve stumbled across recently, from glossy magazines to nail-biting to haircutting.
 

Glossy Magazines | Eggs | Job Ethics | Squidly Co…

This week we discuss two crucial qualities that can make you exponentially better in bed (and out of bed, too): curiosity and creativity.

Sexual Skills | Communication | Curiosity | Accepting Feedback…

Pursuing pleasure isn’t always as easy as it may seem, so this week we’re discussing some common hurdles to pleasure and how to overcome them, among other things.
 

What is Pleasurable? | Resistance to…

When times get tough, pleasure becomes more important than ever. This week, we discuss our favorite ways of accessing pleasure, and the role it plays in our lives, both in and out of the bedroom.
 

Ple…

This week we’re continuing to discuss some of our favorite films about the LGBTQ+ experience – plus a few about non-monogamy and sex work, for good measure!
 

750GB of Trans Content | Obsession & Bigot…

We needed a dose of queer resilience this week (maybe you do too!), so we’re talking about some of our favorite queer films and the evolution of LGBTQ+ cinema.
 

The News | Hope Throughout History | Th…

This week we get real vulnerable (and a li’l intoxicated) and tell you about some of our favorite new fantasies from 2024, the goals we set for our sex lives last year, and what we want to try in 202…

How did you grow and change in 2024 when it comes to sex and relationships? This week, we’re reflecting on our biggest (and kinkiest) shifts over the past year, plus discussing our current favorite s…

Vocal tone can have a big effect on kink scenes and everyday conversations alike, so this week we’re discussing our feelings on voices and dirty talk.

Dirty Talk & Humiliation | Voice Kink & Praise K…

People are always coming up with new and interesting fetishes, and this week we discuss some unusual ones we’ve seen lately.

Current Definition | “Deviating” from the “Norm” | Taboo & Shame | Cream P…

This week, a conversation about denial kink devolves into a wide-ranging discussion of gendered sex narratives, the kinky legacies of trauma, and the Big Nut.

Orgasms vs. Other Stuff | Enough to Make…

What if celebrity crushes can be healthy, actually? This week, we discuss some of the benefits of parasocial relationships, for people on both sides of the slash.
 

Masculinity in the Sex Shop | Benefi…

This week Kate and her spouse mb discuss the politics and philosophy of No Nut November, and how it compares to chastity play.

NNN vs. Chastity Kink | Greater Purpose | Love & Affection | “Don’t Thin…

We’ve experienced parasocial relationships from both sides of the coin, so this week we’re discussing our experiences with this sometimes-nice, sometimes-yikes type of attraction.
 

That Fuckin’ Electi…

Happy Halloween! This week we’re discussing our favorite fantasies outside the realm of realism.

Fantasies Changing Over Time | Impossibilities | Tropes & Genres | Hypnosis | Being Watched | Magic vs…

We’re taking the week off, so here’s the full, previously-unreleased conversation we had when Kate interviewed Billy for Making Magic in September of last year! We touched on the Magic Wand’s role in…