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Are you an introvert or an extrovert. Or are you an ambivert or omnivert? In this episode I will talk about these different personality traits and why it can be helpful to know what you are and what …

Are you Alone? or Lonely? In this episode I will talk about the differences and invite you to consider your experience. I'll invite you to decide what you want to do about it, if anything.

The Zegarnik Effect is our brains tendency to return its attention to unresolved problems. We can use this to benefit our lives. Listen to this episode to find out how.

One upping and one downing can damage our relationships. We all do it. When we are willing to look at ourselves and clean this up, we can create more intimate relationships.

In this episode I will teach you how to manage triggers so that they will not have power over you. This is a next level healing skill. You may not be ready for it yet. Please Know that I am not minim…

Have you heard the idea that your husband can read and pray his addictions away? In this episode I will share MY thoughts on this. I will share why I don't think it is true, how this idea can be harm…

Words are powerful. In this episode I invite you to make a small change. I talk about little words that have a big impact. If you choose, you can make a big change with the little words you use. 

Do you find yourself going to all or nothing thinking? This habit can cause you pain and keep you stuck. You can free yourself from the all or nothing thinking trap. In this episode I will share a fe…

In this episode I am describing and explaining the Johari Window. It is a great tool for self introspection, awareness, and connection. 

Self Trust is SO important to a happy life. What is Self Trust. How is your level of self trust?  Would you like to improve it? Listen in this episode for thoughts and ideas.

Are you For or Against group support meetings? What has been your experience? Have you heard people claim that group support meetings are not helpful? I have and in this episode I'm going to share my…

This struggle of a spouse's unwanted sexual behaviors is so isolating. All struggles are! Today I have a super short message about a super important aspect of your healing: Having someone to talk to.

Do you know the difference between Victim and Victim Mindset? One is acknowledging your experience, the other will keep you stuck. They are both a choice. Which choice do you want to make?

Sometimes we wish we could just choose a new thought. And sometimes we can. Not usually though. In this episode I will teach you about bridge thoughts and ladder thoughts. These tools can get your th…

We have all thrown a pity party for oursevles because we are human and it is so easy for our brains to go there. However, we don't have to get stuck there. 

Have you ever had this thought? Do you have it now? In this episode I will share my experience with this thought and show you the power it has. I will point out the result this thought brings. Then y…

Have you every thought you want more balance in life? In today's episode, we are going to play around with this idea, consider some options, the YOU get to decide how you want to choose to think abou…

In this episode I will share my ideas about being comfortable, being in discomfort, and being comforted.  Knowing when we WANT to be there and when we don't. Knowing WHY it is useful to be there and …

The River of Misery is a concept that we can use for our growth. Understanding where we are now is not where we have to stay is powerful. AND to grow we have to be willing to cross The River of Miser…

Here is a tool that can help you AND your husband in your individual healing and growth journeys. It is a tool that everyone can use for creating life intentionally. See how your life can improve by …