Psychology of Dating Podcast

Dating apps are a large part of the dating experience in the modern day. While the apps can be useful ways to connect and meet new people, there are common mistakes people make when using them which …

Our minds can often be thinking about the past or future, looping in rumination or worry thoughts, which increases emotional distress. 5 Senses Grounding is a psychology strategy to help anchor the m…

There are 10 types of unhelpful thinking styles from Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), these can frequently come up in dating. This limits perspectives in situations, creates biased thinking, and ca…

In dating people can pursue perfectionism, for themselves and others, in the pursuit of their ideal relationship. Perfectionism however can have adverse consequences, including increased guilt, feeli…

Dating and finding the relationship you desire is a journey, we don't how long it will take, and it is most helpful to be consistent and motivated. Motivation can help people overcome barriers and ch…

Polyvagal Theory is a way to help understand the states of your nervous system, and it's automatic survival functions and physiological responses. In dating you may experience moments of joy, fear, a…

Dating situations can commonly bring up anxiety, stress, or apprehension. Worry about the situation can be a common automatic coping strategy, however not the most effective. In Dialectical Behaviour…

Every emotion we experience has an action urge.  For example, when feeling afraid the urge is the avoid or run away, when feeling excited the urge is to approach a situation. Sometimes these urges ar…

Painful or uncomfortable dating situations can trigger rumination, repetitive negative thoughts. Rumination can increase anxiety, depression, and stress. 

In this episode:
- Learn about the function of…

How to show care, interest, and kindness to those you are dating? In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) the 'GIVE skill' helps people focus on keeping or maintaining healthy relationships.

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In dating it is natural to encounter uncomfortable thoughts and feelings- anxiety, low mood, burnout, fear of rejection, fear of putting effort in and it not working out. In Acceptance and Commitment…

Are you ever tired of the conversations on dating apps? Feeling bored, fatigued of the same conversations and questions?

In this episode:
- Learn about the difference between a boring vs interesting me…

Rejection can be a difficult emotion to manage. People can not only have a fear of being rejected, but also of doing the rejection. If you have a fear of ending connections with others, you may engag…

Fear of being rejected is common in dating. Fear of rejection can lead to increased self-criticism, overgeneralisation, and assuming the worst of ourselves or the dating situation, "No-one will ever …

Having self-respect involves pride, self-love, and knowing your worth. If you have healthy self-respect, then confidence increases and it makes it easier to reach you goals in dating. With healthy se…

It can be common in dating to have fears about speaking up and naming dynamics that make you uncomfortable. People can assume they are 'too needy or sensitive', worry they will 'scare' people away, o…

Overscheduling and Underscheduling can be common habits of dating. That is, going on so many dates you begin to feel exhausted and neglect other aspects of your life, or quit dating altogether limiti…

What you define as 'success' in dating, can dramatically impact how pressured, stressed, and disheartened you feel, OR create feelings of pride, empowerment, and energy in the dating process. 

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It is common to find it hard to let go of painful dating situations, even though they happened in the past, and you cannot change them. When we have pain in life, and do not accept this, then we expe…

It is common in dating to have judgments and biases that obscure dating experiences. For example, people may make up stories about how a person is, based on a few photos and words on an app, and make…