Playing With Fire

Non-monogamy is a big adventure. It's also a huge source of fear and dysregulation for a lot of us.

Individuating also involves quite a bit of discomfort.

When that all gets too much, you can fall …

Wiggly, firm, soft, rigid - peens are shape shifters. Why does that matter? Well, somebody you know might have one, and they might have feelings about that, what with the cultural pressures brought t…

You're alive in a human body, so you have a nervous system, and sometimes it freaks out. What do you do then? We learned Neuro-Somatic Intelligence from the incomparable Elisabeth Kristof, Melanie We…

How much more satisfying would work be if you brought more of yourself into your work relationships? Joli talks with Beth Hankes (she/her) about the benefits of bringing your relational skills into t…

Guess what they didn't teach us in school?

HOW TO DATE.

Much less how to date MINDFULLY.

Even less-less when we are ready to date non-monogamously.

My lovely colleague and fellow Ph.D. Researcher,…

Have you been *working* on your relationships so hard you've lost the sense of joy and pleasure of it all?

Time for something new!

Megan is an expert in coming home to our innate capacity to relate t…

Non-monogamy comes in as many forms as there are people imagining outside the norm. Imagination is the tool we use to dream the dream forward to what's next. When you follow your imagination that way…

How do you handle wigging out, feeling like a mess, or in technical terms getting dysregulated? Well, we rely on tools we learned from applied neurologist Elisabeth Kristof, and now you can hear abou…

Swinging, sex clubs, bdsm, lifestyle - if you're into stories about these things, this episode is for you. Ashley Weller from the What's Your Position podcast joins us to share her experiences with a…

Relationships require so many different skills. Do you ever struggle to process an argument, or to identify what you really want and need?

Dedeker, Emily, and Jase, the hosts of the Multiamory podca…

Struggling with intimacy but you've already tried *everything*? Not sure what could possibly help? Surrogate partner therapy is amazing and we want you to know more about it! Brian Gibney, a Surrogat…

Did you jump into the open waters and find the water kinda choppy? Totally normal, we're sharing:

-How the scientific method can help you do this all with less pain (really!)

-Why you are struggling …

What if you could get to know your power intimately, and so get to know your whole self? What if you could use your story to have the life, pleasure, and relationships you want? Check out our chat wi…

Jung has this great quote “Where love rules, there is no will to power, and where power predominates, love is lacking. The one is the shadow of the other.” The shadow of love is power in Jung's estim…

It's no secret that we started our relationship in a bad place.

Together, we worked and learned our way from a painful, confused state to a conscious, growth-oriented, and gentle love.

We transformed…

If your monsters could help you live more of the life you want to live, would you get to know them, and invite them in? What about sharing them with a trusted partner in a thoughtful, conscious proce…

Having a plan for when your partner goes on a date makes it way more likely that you will both have a positive relationship experience, no matter how the date itself goes.

What goes into our plans? …

Bringing up non-monogamy can be a shock to your partner's system. But if you never bring it up, you'll never even know what's possible for you.

Here's how you can plan for success and make this poten…

Libby Sinback, from Making Polyamory Work joins Joli for a conversation about one of the BEST parts of shifting from monogamy to non-monogamy: community that supports your authentic self.

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