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Non-Monogamy Help

Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.

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Update frequency
every 13 days
Average duration
24 minutes
Episodes
166
Years Active
2019 - 2025
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Episode 165 - Re-Release Primal Panic

Episode 165 - Re-Release Primal Panic

This week I'm re-sharing Episode 104 on Primal Panic because it's one of the most popular episodes and you might have missed it!

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00:22:56  |   Fri 12 Sep 2025
Episode 164 - Too Much Labour

Episode 164 - Too Much Labour

Stop carrying the entire mental load of your relationship while your partner coasts on your effort.

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00:30:56  |   Fri 29 Aug 2025
Episode 163 - People Pleasing in Polyamory

Episode 163 - People Pleasing in Polyamory

Are you people pleasing to the point where you think you've over corrected but really, you're under-correcting?

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00:41:46  |   Fri 15 Aug 2025
Episode 162 - Setting Real Boundaries in Polyamory

Episode 162 - Setting Real Boundaries in Polyamory

You should never have to ask, 'What if someone crosses my boundary?' Because the boundary, in and of itself, by definition, should include what you will do if it is crossed.

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00:25:51  |   Fri 01 Aug 2025
Episode 161 - Bedtime Relationship Rumination

Episode 161 - Bedtime Relationship Rumination

Why your brain processes relationship conflicts at night and how to break the cycle without exhausting your partner.

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00:25:52  |   Fri 18 Jul 2025
Episode 160 - What A Boundary Is

Episode 160 - What A Boundary Is

How many times should you let someone violate your boundaries and can you rebuild trust after?

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00:16:37  |   Fri 27 Jun 2025
Episode 159 - No Contact Metamour

Episode 159 - No Contact Metamour

When you’re no contact with a nesting metamour, can you make a relationship with your shared partner work?

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00:12:01  |   Fri 13 Jun 2025
Episode 158 - Hierarchies and Polyamory

Episode 158 - Hierarchies and Polyamory

When your primary partner only wants to have threesomes other partners and not you, it may not be a good sign.

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00:38:46  |   Fri 30 May 2025
Episode 157 - Solo Not Celibate

Episode 157 - Solo Not Celibate

Trying polyamory with a solo polyam person could be potentially difficult for a monogamous person.

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00:22:51  |   Fri 16 May 2025
Episode 156 - Polyamory Obsessed

Episode 156 - Polyamory Obsessed

How do you stop becoming just a little bit obsessed with reading about polyamory?

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00:24:42  |   Fri 02 May 2025
Episode 155 - Re-Release Hierarchies and Ethics

Episode 155 - Re-Release Hierarchies and Ethics

Prioritising a long term marriage is unethical to many people, but what do you if that’s genuinely what you want to do?

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00:28:17  |   Fri 18 Apr 2025
Episode 154 - Sharing Home With A Metamour

Episode 154 - Sharing Home With A Metamour

Feeling like you have to make yourself scarce in your own home can get old very quickly.

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00:18:07  |   Fri 04 Apr 2025
Episode 153 - Childhood Trauma and Polyamory

Episode 153 - Childhood Trauma and Polyamory

How long should a partner wait for you to work through childhood trauma until you are “ready” for polyamory?

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00:35:43  |   Fri 21 Mar 2025
Episode 152 - Reddit Ashes

Episode 152 - Reddit Ashes

Responding to the r/relationships question: My boyfriend wouldn't go with me to spread my father's ashes

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00:12:53  |   Fri 07 Mar 2025
Episode 151 - Cold Metamour

Episode 151 - Cold Metamour

If your metamour is a little cold to you, when do you decide to tell your partner? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠…

00:22:44  |   Fri 21 Feb 2025
Episode 150 - Q&A

Episode 150 - Q&A

Questions for this week's Q&A episode include: - Any tips for long distance polyamory?

- How do you deal with guilt over having a stronger romantic connection with one partner?

- Could space away fr…

00:43:43  |   Fri 31 Jan 2025
Episode 149 - Mono/Poly Relationships

Episode 149 - Mono/Poly Relationships

Everyone always wonders if it is possible to be monogamous to polyamorous person successfully.

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00:30:23  |   Fri 17 Jan 2025
Episode 148 - Children from Flings

Episode 148 - Children from Flings

When a fling results in a different parent of your child, it might be difficult to know whether or not to involve the biological parent.

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00:21:12  |   Fri 03 Jan 2025
Episode 147 - Dating Monogamous People

Episode 147 - Dating Monogamous People

Your partner doesn’t seem to mind dating monogamous people but you feel it’s not right. Can you actually change it?

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00:25:01  |   Fri 20 Dec 2024
Episode 146 - Polyamory to Avoid Breaking Up

Episode 146 - Polyamory to Avoid Breaking Up

Is it a good idea to try polyamory just to avoid breaking up with your partner and are you insecure and traumatised if you're struggling to make it work?

That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy He…

00:25:44  |   Fri 06 Dec 2024
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