Intentional Living with Tanya Hale

Learning to advocate for ourselves is a skill that many of us haven't acquired yet, and until we do, we will struggle with self-respect and with having the equal relationships that we desire.  When w…

Gaslighting is a term that has really gained some traction in the past 12 years, and some of us may still be a little sketchy on what exactly it means.  In today's podcast, I reference two articles t…

All of us have felt resentment at one time or another.  Resentment is one of those emotions that we call 'indulgent emotions' because it may feel good and justified, and even feel like it's productiv…

Do you ever struggle with motivation?  I think it's just part of the human condition to have to figure out how to get things done.  And although there are a lot of quick tricks and tips we can use to…

All of us have fear in our lives, it's part of being a human.  If we let it, this fear will hold us back from experiencing life to its fullest and growing into the person we have the capacity to beco…

What if we could learn how to keep out of contention more often and instead create greater connection? Contention really is a choice, and so is connection.  Learning to set aside our fear-based respo…

It can be so easy to allow ourselves to slip into victim thinking. Being able to recognize when we get there and understand how to move ourselves out of it is a powerful tool that puts us back in cha…

In our lives that are often filled with so much stuff and stress and busyness, it can sometimes seem improbable that we will be able to find rest.  And yet, we are promised that if we will turn to Ch…

Sione and I just celebrated our first anniversary.  Second marriages have a 67% divorce rate, and because that's not a space either of us in interested in, we have made some pretty intentional moves …

Recognizing the value and worth of all people, knowing that there is no spectrum of value, opens us up to feeling more compassion and empathy and acceptance of others.  When we can recognize and embr…

Learning how to coach yourself on a daily basis is an important tool for helping you to align the life you are living with the life you really want to be living.  Today I share some of my favorite st…

Our brains have a natural tendency to always look for what is fair and what is equal.  But when we're working to create a more intimate, close relationship, fair and equal is destructive.  When our b…

The relationship circle is a concept that helps us to stay in our own lanes and resist the temptation to try and take control of things that aren't ours to control.  When we more clearly understand h…

This week my husband, Sione, joins me as we share a recent experience we had in which we had the opportunity to step into some pretty honest communication.  It took a lot of vulnerability, courage, a…

Circling back around is a technique that my husband, Sione, and I use in our marriage that allows us to apologize better and show up more as the partners that we really want to.  We incorporate the c…

Forgiving someone who has hurt us can seem like a herculean task sometimes.  The pain can run deep and wide and it can feel that if we forgive that we are condoning the behavior that was so painful t…

So many of us unintentionally engage in passive-aggressive behaviors, and it's hurting our relationships.  Today we are going to talk about 18 different ways that these behaviors show up.  When we cr…

When we want/need to have a tough discussion with someone, we can have a tendency to blame and accuse the other person, which generally tends to lead to defensiveness and a fight.  In this podcast I'…

There are times when we feel as though our cup is so low that we don't have anything left to give, and then we need to check out of our lives long enough to replenish and refill.  But what if we coul…

Sometimes it can feel as though we get a lot of complaints from our children about all the things we are doing wrong, or have done wrong, as their parents.  And that's all pretty normal, I think, bec…