Intentional Living with Tanya Hale

So much of our society is trying to sell us on the idea that self-care involves spending a lot of money at the nail or lash salon, or at the spa.  But self care goes a lot deeper than indulging ourse…

What so many of us seek for is true belonging with other people, but we often think we can get there by trying to fit in.  But where belonging is bring our true selves to the table, fitting in tries …

Self-esteem is a topic that is constantly being covered in women's and parenting magazines.  We hear about how our self-esteem impacts our choices for both good and for bad.  And yet so much of the i…

Sometimes it can seem so much easier to have compassion for others than it can be to have compassion for ourselves.  But self-compassion is a vital element in our having a life filled with peace, con…

Forgiving ourselves for things we have done can be a pretty difficult challenge sometimes.  But learning to understand our life experience in the context of God's Plan of Salvation can help us see ho…

Ugh.  Divorce.  What a topic.  But I frequently have people ask me about my divorce and how I came to the decision to file after 4 kids and 24 years of marriage.  And I know I sought similar  informa…

Do you remember the life you envisioned when you were a young 20? I do too.  And the circumstances I imagined back then are nothing like the life I'm living now.  But all is not lost!  When I come to…

Pain.  Definitely not one of our favorite things to feel, but it is an inevitable part of life.  Today we are discussing three ways we tend to want to deal with pain that are not helpful at all: avoi…

Do you ever feel you would like a little more validation in your life?  But then we get it and it seems it's never enough, we still don't feel appreciated for all of our sacrifices and efforts.  Toda…

So today we go into detail about how to coach yourself.  We will discover how to decide what the circumstance is, and what your thoughts are.  Then we'll discuss how to fill out the thought model to …

What do boundaries have to do with healthy relationships?  Everything!  Today we're going to talk about how our thoughts can help us to respect other people's boundaries so we can have greater connec…

You know that lady that offended you last week?  She didn't really offend you.  She just acted like a human.  You chose to take her words or actions and think about them in such a way that you hurt y…

Oh my gosh!  How many of us find ourselves totally stuck in life sometimes?!?  Definitely me.  We're in a situation and we can't figure out how to get out of it and move on.  Well, today we're discus…

Adversity.  Just the word can cause us to shrink back and want to hide in a corner.  But despite all of its struggles and challenges and frustrations, adversity is one of the greatest blessings in ou…

This is the second half of an interview I had with my 19 year old daughter, Allison, almost four years after my divorce.  She showed up with some vulnerability talking about the effects the divorce h…

This is the first half of an interview I had with my 19 year old daughter, Allison, almost four years after my divorce.  She showed up with some vulnerability talking about the effects the divorce ha…

For many of us, our past can be one of the biggest obstacles we have to overcome in this life.  Experiences from when we were younger, or even just last week, can weigh us down with feelings of worth…

It is so easy to get caught up in the blame game!  It's just such a natural part of being a human.  But blaming instead of taking responsibility is a place where we become the victim, a place where w…

Alright.  Today we're hitting some of the basics of self-coaching, figuring out how to tell the difference between the facts in our story and our thoughts in our story.  This is the first and most im…

All of us find ourselves in a place of overwhelm at times.  Today we're discussing how to get out of it, and how to keep from going there as often and as deep.