Intentional Living with Tanya Hale

When we feel safe in our relationships, we feel we can show up with more vulnerability.  When we show up with more vulnerability, we create more emotional and physical intimacy.  But oftentimes, the …

So many of us did not learn growing up what it means to be in a relationship.  If you're like me, you thought that growing up and getting married would mean that you would have someone to love you, t…

When I really got serious about dating in my 50's, I used something called the 90-day Relationship.  An idea baby of Brooke Castillo from The Life Coach School, I took it and ran with it.  Basically,…

Dating in the middle part of our lives is a different ballgame than when we were in our 20s.  Thank goodness!  We have a much better understanding of who we are and what is really important to us in …

Divorce is a major life event, and one that can leave us feeling as though our whole world has been upended, because, often it has been.  It can be really tough to get our feet on solid ground with a…

If ever there is a time in our lives when our self-worth seems like it's up for grabs, going through a divorce is it.  It's a time when we question our judgment, our wisdom, our value, our loveabilit…

One-upping and one-downing in our relationships is so normal and expected for most of us, that we can often have a tough time recognizing when we are doing it. Here are two things to look for to help…

Validation is something that we often seek from others to shore up our sense of self.  And this never really works, because SELF-worth is something that can only be created within ourselves.  Validat…

It's hard to know what to do when you're in a tough marriage.  You have tried so many things to make it better, and often it seems that despite your best efforts it's getting worse.  You're stuck in …

Our natural tendency as humans is to go into a one-up or a one-down approach in our relationships, especially when there is conflict.  And yet, this tactic is incredibly ineffective in helping us to …

Miscommunication is a silent killer in our relationships.  The tricky part is, we often don't even realize we are miscommunicating, and yet it causes so many fights and so much frustration for us.  W…

When we talk about betrayal in relationships, we most often think of the really big betrayals such as infidelity.  But just as important are the small betrayals that can occur over and over in our re…

Many of us grew up in homes where we didn't receive any training about vulnerability in relationships.  We were fairly uneducated about emotions, and it has shown to be very detrimental in our marria…

Sometimes our relationships can get difficult, or if not difficult, a little stale.  In those times it can be hard not to check out and show up in a way that nourishes our relationship.  Today we're …

Sometimes in our relationships we find ourselves fighting a lot.  The fascinating part about this is that what we're fighting about, isn't really what the fight is about.  We may think it's about the…

Learning to step into our God-given sexuality is a necessary step to coming into a sense of self.  And having a strong sense of self is vital in being able to create the life we are capable of and de…

Living in alignment is a place where our thoughts and behaviors are aligned with our values.  Just because we are human we will get out of alignment, we will say and do things that hurt others, that …

I work with a lot of clients who don't feel they are equally yoked with their partner, meaning, they don't feel they are both 'all in' or even in at the same level, and yet they want to stay in the r…

My journey to become a life coach started when I was a teenager, and became a reality about the time I got divorced.  The tools I teach have been instrumental in me learning to get out of divorce vic…

Thinking that our spouse is our responsibility can cause a few different problems in our relationship.  First, we can overstep boundaries when we, with every good intention, try to be responsible (ta…