Flying Free

Imagine carrying around a backpack full of books from high school.

You aren’t taking those classes anymore, but you always carry the weight anyway.

It digs into your shoulders. It makes you tired. Slow…

Lydia left her abusive husband.

Then she came back.

She found the guts to leave him again.

And returned another time.

In the end, it took SEVEN times for her to get free.

If you've been there or if you're…

If you're like most Christian women in confusing and painful marriages, you've tried everything.

You've read the books, the blogs, the sarcastic memes, and the devotionals.

You've paid for counseling, …

Do you picture yourself and your children begging on the streets if you dare to leave?

Are you overwhelmed at the thought of making ends meet as a single mom?

Do you wonder how you'll pay for groceries…

When you react to  your husband’s abuse, it can feel like you’re the abuser.

When he tells you how hard his childhood was, you may feel sorry for him.

When you read about personality disorders, some of…

If your life is already a tough pill to swallow, taking more medicine is the last thing you want to do. Gross. 

But what if it's the "best medicine"? The type that makes you laugh-cry, hold your sides…

If your child was starving and asked you for bread, would you make her eat from a dumpster? 

If your child was dying of thirst and asked for water, would you pour sand down his throat?

Are you that chi…

Getting out of an abusive marriage can seem impossible. Especially when it comes to the money aspect. As in...where will you get it? How will you reenter (or start in) the work force? How are you goi…

It took 11 words to change the world. 11 words misinterpreted. 11 words misunderstood. 11 words manipulated. 

A single sentence from the mouth of God to the first woman...Eve. A pronouncement. A predi…

Was there a day when you realized he was doing it all on purpose?
 

After all your tears, your pleading, and explanations, there was no way you could keep excusing his behavior. 

His explanations didn’t…

You are married to a bully. If only he'd steal your lunch money or call you a dingus during math class and be done with it.

Instead, he makes everything into a torturous game with changing rules that …

The length of your marriage. You’ll never forget it. 3 years of holes in the wall. 9 years of sleepless nights. 17 years of pleading. 25 years of silence. 43 years of lowering your standards again an…

Have you ever talked to people who weren't there? Imagined conversations in your head? Perfected your argument while showering or lying in bed?

I did that...and made it into a podcast. 

But this conver…

Your marriage was like a jigsaw puzzle. A big, confusing, fragmented mess. 

Once you found the "abuse" piece, everything fell into place. 

But are you prepared for what happens when you leave? Cause th…

"Till death do us part." Those words haunt you. 

The enemy was supposed to be outside of your home and family. Easy to see. Protection just a prayer or a locked door away. 

But the one stealing from an…

Why are you staying in your abusive marriage? 

For many women, the price to get free seems too high. They fear destitution, losing their children, revenge by their husband, more trauma and heartache, …

If it's true that we learn from our mistakes, then I know a whole heck of a lot. 

This episode, Part 2 of 2, is about the mistakes I made in church — the three main ways I lit myself on fire, with the…

Put your stretchy pants on, cause this episode's a three-course dinner on what NOT to do once you realize your marriage is a hamster wheel of emotional abuse. 

These three mistakes caused me greater p…

Abusers are terrified. They mask their fear with rage, manipulation, false piety, and good ole-fashioned bullying. 

If they're actually weak, scared babies, how are they so powerful and unchecked in c…

If my husband has a mental health issue or a personality disorder, does that excuse his abusive behavior? My husband isn’t the typical abuser; is my marriage actually abusive or just bad? Am I wrong …