Dad Starting Over
Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you're newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you're still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you're in the right place.
I'm Ralph, a.k.a DSO, the author of books called "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "Divorce Panic", "Real Talk" and "Red Flags". You can learn more about me, my books, one-on-one coaching, and the member-only part of my site called the Brotherhood at https://helpformen.com
- Update frequency
- every 3 days
- Average duration
- 26 minutes
- Episodes
- 323
- Years Active
- 2018 - 2025
Dear DSO: "My Husband Doesn't Want Me!"
Ralph addresses a poignant message from Lana, a 42-year-old woman facing a significant marital dilemma. Despite being attractive, fit, and highly sexual, Lana struggles with her husband's distant and…
"You Only Do This Because I Told You To! It Doesn't Count!" (from a live stream)
Ralph addresses Adnor's dilemma about seeking counseling for relationship issues without making it feel like an ultimatum. Drawing from real-life examples, Ralph emphasizes the importance of genuine …
Staying Sexy in Long-Term Monogamy.... is it Possible? (from live stream)
Can a couple's sex life be sustainable over a the life of strict long-term monogamy? In this episode, Ralph explores the challenges of maintaining a fulfilling sex life as a couple ages. From the hon…
"Men shouldn't get in shape... it makes the wife insecure. It's bad for the relationship!"
A follower on Facebook reached out to me with his point of view about getting in shape. In his mind, it is NOT a good idea! His wife, after all, feels insecure about how he looks, and it has proven t…
The Dating Game for Young Adults (from a live event)
In this episode, Ralph responds to a question from a listener named Candice about the modern dating scene, which veers dramatically from what many parents recall from their youth. Ralph shares a vivi…
Why Does Female Libido Go Down in Monogamy?! Won't That Scare The Man Away?! (from a DSO Live Stream)
Sexual desire within monogamous relationships has long been a highly nuanced and widely debated subject. A myriad of psychological and anthropological perspectives suggest a noticeable shift in women…
Dear DSO: "My Wife Has Suddenly Changed!"
Harry asks his wife to return to work post-pregnancy, which results in her filing for divorce. Their marriage struggles due to frequent disputes, troublesome family members, and strong feelings. Ralp…
Dear DSO: "Wife Has Become Withdrawn, Angry, and Has More Mental Breakdowns"
"Mister Niceguy No More" has written to Ralph about difficulties in his eleven-year marriage, describing his wife's distant and transactional approach to their sex life. This has caused him frustrati…
Dear DSO: "I’m a New Father... And I Was Really Tempted to Cheat (But I Didn’t). Is There Hope for Our Marriage?"
A reader reaches out to share his stress over being a new father and being tempted to almost cheat on his spouse... What does this mean for him and his marriage?
Dear DSO: Should I Tell My Wife/Roommate About My Cancer Diagnosis?
A reader has a great deal of resentment towards his spouse of 13-15 years of a dead bedroom marriage... but he's recently been diagnosed with cancer. Should he tell his wife? In the past, she has dis…
Dad Starting over Is Now Part of the Help for Men Network!
We are proud to introduce our new brand: Help For Men! You can learn more at helpformen.com.
The DSO Fraternity, our private group for men only, will now be known as The HFM Brotherhood.
WE are looking…
How Often Should The Responsive Desire Person Initiate? (with Dr. Psych Mom - from a Live Event)
Dr. Psych Mom and Ralph answer a question from a follower: How often should the responsive desire partner actually initiate sex?
"How do I stay positive during a long-term dead bedroom marriage?" (From livestream)
Dear DSO: "Is paying a cosplayer on Only Fans considered cheating?"
In this episode, Ralph addresses a listener's question about whether subscribing to OnlyFans is considered cheating. Ralph emphasizes that it's not about his opinion, but rather what the listener and…
Dear DSO: "Should I fill out mental health forms for my ex?"
In this episode of Dear DSO, Jimmy from Scotland seeks advice on whether he should help his ex-wife with her mental health diagnosis. While he's hesitant due to painful memories and the fact that her…
DSO and Dr. Pysch Mom Talk About Dead Bedrooms (from a livestream event)
In this episode, Dr. Psych Mom and DSO discuss the psychology behind pressuring a spouse about a dead bedroom versus ignoring the issue. They explore the challenges faced by anxious men in relationsh…
Dear DSO: "I Feel Abandoned."
Luke writes in to ask how to overcome feelings of abandonment from his ex-wife. He feels stuck, resentful, and alone after building his life around her. DSO empathizes with Luke's situation but encou…
Dear DSO: "I Feel Like I'm Stuck in a Dead Bedroom!"
DSO addresses a listener's struggle with a low-sex relationship. DSO explains the dynamics of anxious and avoidant attachment styles and offers insights into the complexities of these situations. He …
Dear DSO: "Why Won't He Propose?!"
Vanessa has been engaged for seven years but can't seem to get her partner to commit to marriage. Despite being together for 18 years and having two children, her partner is hesitant to tie the knot.…