Why Does My Partner
We're couple therapists and messy humans bumbling through our own relationships everyday. Between us we have more than 40 years of experience holding hard relational questions with our clients. We’re going to bring those questions here. And together we’re going to take a stab at answering those questions.
- Update frequency
- every 7 days
- Average duration
- 20 minutes
- Episodes
- 124
- Years Active
- 2021 - 2025
Why Am I the Only One Who Raises the Red Flag and Has to Say This Marriage Is Not Going Well?
Is there one person in your partnership that always brings up the issues? Whether that’s you or your partner, chances are there are some real feelings of disconnection and loneliness all around. On t…
Want Me to Just Get Over the Hurt
Ok, so maybe we’ve convinced you that Discord Builds Trust (No Really!). You’re on board, you’re practicing sitting with your learned beliefs, and you're cultivating curiosity. Now the moment arrives…
Bring Up Safe Topics to Solve a Problem When There Are Hidden Issues Not Being Discussed
Hello and welcome to episode two of our mini-series, Discord Builds Trust…No Really!
It’s such a natural, human thing to want to avoid conflict. We all do it! But when we do, we’re missing the chance …
Feel Most Comfortable Connecting on a Surface Level
We’re back, dear listeners, as promised with a bonus mini-series: Discord Builds Trust…No Really!
Really, it does! We’re not kidding with you on this one. So then why are we sometimes more comfortable…
Discord Builds Trust...No Really! (Bonus Series Teaser)
Hello dear listeners! We're popping into your podcast feed today to let you know that our next Bonus Mini Series, Discord Builds Trust...No Really! will be launching on June 13, 2023! To get things g…
Become More Needy the Healthier I Get and the More I Try to Establish Healthy Boundaries
Here it is folks, our last episode of season 4! Today’s conversation sums up so much of what we’ve been talking about this season, from slowing down and having the tough conversations, to building tr…
Need Sex to Feel Connected While I Need to Feel Connected to Have Sex
Welcome back to the WDMP Podcast. Today’s question leads us into exploring what we each understand sexual intimacy to mean, and what we can do if that understanding doesn't seem to line up with our p…
Tell Me What Upsets Them
Welcome back to the WDMP podcast. Today’s listener question asks about a partner who says there’s nothing wrong, but the asker is worried he’s holding back. We take this into a discussion about trust…
Have a Secret World and Not Let Me In
Would you know everything about your partner? Like, really, really everything? There’s a delicate balance in every relationship between the intimacy of knowing each other deeply and keeping the magic…
Always Have to Get Their Way
Welcome back to the WDMP podcast! Rebecca is bringing the question today so that we can go deeper on the language of “power over, power under, and power with.”
We live in such a hierarchical, win-or-l…
Why Do I Take Care of My Partner When They Apologize To Me?
Can remorse be empowering? Spoilers for today’s question, which comes from a listener who finds themselves doing the comforting, when it’s their partner who was doing the apologizing. What’s up with …
Complain When I Play Golf
It’s a fun one today on the WDMP podcast as we answer a question that’s sounds at first like it’s about hobbies and taking time for things we enjoy, but really gets down to how we distribute resource…
Interracial Relationships
Welcome back to the WDMP Podcast. Instead of a regular question, today we're answering a listener's request to talk about the dynamics between interracial couples and the conflicts that arise from th…
Get Defensive and Justify a Friendship
Welcome back to the WDMP podcast! Here in our second episode of season 4, a listener brings us his concerns about his wife’s friendship with a lesbian coworker. We get into topics like feeling dismis…
Have No Interest In Being More Relational
We’re back with season four and starting off with the big ones. Today’s question gets Jules, Vickey, and Rebecca asking, “what the heck does ‘relational’ even mean?” It’s a word we use all the time h…
make this a lover's day with yourself
Happy Valentine's Day! Are you ready for more Why Does My Partner? More is coming soon. Season 4 drops next week. We had to wish you a Happy Valentine's Day. Our hope is that at least some of you out…
Not Want to Make Love to Me
Welcome back to the WDMP podcast and to the third episode in our Mini-Series on Choosing, Being Chosen and Belonging. This episode covers the topic of sexual intimacy in relationship, if that affects…
Look Outside for Things to Make Them Feel Good About Themself
Welcome back to the WDMP podcast and to the second episode in our Mini-Series on Choosing, Being Chosen and Belonging.
In this episode we're answering the question "Why Does My Partner Look Outside fo…
Prefer to Keep the Status Quo of Distance in our Relationship
Welcome back to the WDMP podcast and to the first episode in our Mini-Series on Choosing, Being Chosen and Belonging.
In this episode we're answering the question "Why Does My Partner Prefer to Keep t…
Mood Influence My Mood So Much
Does your partner ever give off an energy, even without saying anything, that rubs off on you? Maybe it makes you feel like they’re mad at you, or you simply adopt the mood that they’re in. In this e…