Untoxicated Podcast
Sheri and Matt Salis just wanted a normal life – normal marriage, normal careers, a normal house and happy kids. Instead, they lived a life of lies and terror as they struggled with Matt’s alcoholism. While their experience sounds rare, with over 15 millions problem drinkers in America, their alcoholic marriage was all too normal.
Matt has been writing about their experiences in alcoholism and recovery for years. On the Untoxicated Podcast, Sheri and Matt talk about it, too.
No subjects are off limits as the couple discusses the trauma of active addiction, the pain of early recovery, the destruction and rebuilding of trust, and the impact on their intimate relationship. If you love an alcoholic, the disease will terrorize your relationship. We hope you’ll listen and find healing in our shared stories.
For more support from Sheri and Matt, check out their Echoes of Recovery program providing connection and healing for the loved ones of alcoholics.
- Update frequency
- every 5 days
- Average duration
- 59 minutes
- Episodes
- 324
- Years Active
- 2020 - 2025
Ep273 – Is Sex All You Think About?
Do you say or hear this question in your relationship? Sheri and Matt break down how sex drive fluctuates in both a short-term and long-term way, and discuss the impacts of addiction and recovery on …
01:08:20 |
Mon 09 Dec 2024
Ep272 – No Longer Normalizing with Tess
Tess has experienced a lot of intolerable alcoholic behavior. But like so many of us, Tess was conditioned to accept the unacceptable, and now she is fighting her way back. Tess is an outstanding mot…
01:16:10 |
Mon 02 Dec 2024
Ep271 – The Emotional Safety Journal
Physical abuse and sexual abuse are more widely understood with societally agreed upon red lines that are not to be crossed. Emotional abuse, on the other hand, is less obvious and less universally u…
00:55:58 |
Mon 25 Nov 2024
Ep270 – The TWFO Couple Paige and Matt Robinson
Paige and Matt Robinson have survived Matt's addiction to opiates and alcohol, and now they are doing a ton to help others, especially spouses, find their way out. Listen to how they managed the lies…
01:10:57 |
Mon 18 Nov 2024
Ep269 – When Behavior Deteriorates Faster than We can Lower Our Standards
Self-esteem building is critical to both the drinker and the loved ones in recovery from addiction. On this episode, Sheri and Matt explore the role deteriorating self-esteem plays in the spiral into…
00:52:17 |
Mon 11 Nov 2024
Ep268 – Trust and Detachment IRL
We simply cannot live without trust. Trust is foundational to human existence, and Sheri and Matt talk about how naive alcoholics are who expect trust to return with short-term sobriety. They also di…
00:59:21 |
Mon 04 Nov 2024
Ep267 – Both Sides of Addiction with Alan Thompson
If you have experienced religious trauma, work stress, marriage distress, alcohol use disorder or the problematic drinking of a family member, this conversation has something for you. Alan Thompson h…
01:23:47 |
Mon 28 Oct 2024
Ep266 – The Fallacy of Control
We are all familiar with the addictions that are associated with moral failings and a lack of willpower - stigmatized addictions to alcohol and other drugs, for example. But there are also addictions…
00:54:16 |
Mon 21 Oct 2024
Ep265 – Parenting in Recovery
Sheri and Matt have talked a lot about the impact of Matt's drinking on their kids. On this episode, the couple talks about the impact of recovery on how they parent. With emotional safety as the gui…
00:57:20 |
Mon 14 Oct 2024
Ep264 – Live Resentment Processing
You have probably heard Sheri and Matt talk about the importance of resentment processing. Now, on this episode, listen to the couple work through real resentments. They discuss both old resentments …
01:09:25 |
Mon 07 Oct 2024
Ep263 – How Does Safety Dissolve?
We talk a lot about a lack of emotional safety in committed partnerships. But how do we get there? What societal, generational and toxic factors dissolve the emotional safety between people who love …
00:57:02 |
Mon 30 Sep 2024
Ep262 – AnnMarie’s Transition Home
AnnMarie's divorce was final one year ago, and her physical, mental and emotional transition that has taken place over the past 12 months is remarkable. She is amazed at how she feels now, and she bl…
01:19:16 |
Mon 23 Sep 2024
Ep261 – Emotional Intimacy First
Intimacy repair work starts with building emotional intimacy. Even when we crave the connection of physical contact, if the emotional foundation has not been established and nurtured, then sex will f…
01:09:37 |
Mon 16 Sep 2024
Ep260 – Luke on Staying Sober through Divorce
When we met Luke, he was ready to get serious about sobriety, and he was eager to recover his marriage. Now, months later, he is making serious progress in recovery, but Luke's marriage has dissolved…
01:15:59 |
Mon 09 Sep 2024
Ep259 – How Needing to be Needed Leads to Addiction
Cheap Trick had it half right. As Sheri and Matt break down, it is much healthier if, "I want you to want me," than if, "I need you to need me." Need versus want. Love versus like. Significant nuance…
01:08:37 |
Mon 02 Sep 2024
Ep258 – 365 Days without a Relationship Relapse
Some people count their sobriety days. For Sheri and Matt, sobriety is just a prerequisite. The really exciting day count comes as they cross over a full year without a relationship relapse. No yelli…
01:01:57 |
Mon 26 Aug 2024
Ep257 – Victoria from Deep In It
Trigger warning: domestic violence
This is a unique and risky episode because Victoria is currently "in it." This is not a story with an ending, it is trauma and chaos experienced in real time. List…
This is a unique and risky episode because Victoria is currently "in it." This is not a story with an ending, it is trauma and chaos experienced in real time. List…
01:10:09 |
Mon 19 Aug 2024
Ep256 – The Value of Strong Independent Women
From kayak cross to gymnastics, where else would you turn for your Olympics recap than to Sheri and Matt. This episode has it all: compliments for Alcoholics Anonymous, celebration for partners who f…
00:59:10 |
Mon 12 Aug 2024
Ep255 – Meeting Your Changing Needs Roundtable
The contrast between their few identifiable needs when they met their partners, and their clear needs after suffering through an alcoholic relationship, is striking. Please listen to Nickie, Eve, Mel…
01:24:57 |
Mon 05 Aug 2024
Ep254 – Are Resentments Holding You Back?
Sheri and Matt talk a lot about processing resentments together, and how it helps repair their relationship. But what if your partner is not available, not willing or not capable of processing resent…
00:56:29 |
Mon 29 Jul 2024
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