Untoxicated Podcast
Sheri and Matt Salis just wanted a normal life – normal marriage, normal careers, a normal house and happy kids. Instead, they lived a life of lies and terror as they struggled with Matt’s alcoholism. While their experience sounds rare, with over 15 millions problem drinkers in America, their alcoholic marriage was all too normal.
Matt has been writing about their experiences in alcoholism and recovery for years. On the Untoxicated Podcast, Sheri and Matt talk about it, too.
No subjects are off limits as the couple discusses the trauma of active addiction, the pain of early recovery, the destruction and rebuilding of trust, and the impact on their intimate relationship. If you love an alcoholic, the disease will terrorize your relationship. We hope you’ll listen and find healing in our shared stories.
For more support from Sheri and Matt, check out their Echoes of Recovery program providing connection and healing for the loved ones of alcoholics.
- Update frequency
- every 5 days
- Average duration
- 59 minutes
- Episodes
- 324
- Years Active
- 2020 - 2025
Ep293 – How Work Plus Time Equals Progress with Lori
Lori is a five-time guest on the podcast for very good reason - she brings a fresh an intelligent perspective to every conversation. On this episode, Lori explains the emotional safety she is experie…
01:09:52 |
Mon 28 Apr 2025
Ep292 – The Fog of Chronic Addiction
Acute addiction gets all the headlines - when the drinker drinks too much and creates chaos and trauma. But the fog chronic alcoholism rolls into the spaces between drinks - when the alcoholic is tem…
00:53:58 |
Mon 21 Apr 2025
Ep291 – Nervous System Leads the Way with Rose
Rose stayed in her alcoholic marriage until she could stay no longer. The impact on her nervous system made her methodical and planned decision to separate her only choice. Listen to Rose reflect on …
01:09:16 |
Mon 14 Apr 2025
Ep290 – Alcoholic Gaslighter’s Top Ten List
Sheri and Matt run through the top ten things alcoholics say to their partners. Do you recognize your relationship in their conversation?
If you love or loved an alcoholic, and your recovery could b…
If you love or loved an alcoholic, and your recovery could b…
01:07:18 |
Mon 07 Apr 2025
Ep289 – Tied to No Particular Outcome with John Olander
Trigger warning: Domestic violence is discussed
John Olander has a network of relationships all over Denver, and he is as tenacious as he is inspiring. But John experienced 20 dark years, crossing o…
John Olander has a network of relationships all over Denver, and he is as tenacious as he is inspiring. But John experienced 20 dark years, crossing o…
00:55:59 |
Mon 31 Mar 2025
Ep288 – Blame
Blame serves a purpose when trying to heal from alcoholism as the drinker or the partner. But there are areas where blame does not belong. In this episode, Sheri and Matt break down the impact of bla…
01:08:08 |
Mon 24 Mar 2025
Ep287 – Focus for More Impact with Ayla Fleming
Ayla Fleming is a licensed clinical social worker and telehealth therapist practicing in Pennsylvania, New Jersey, and New York. Since specializing in helping individuals, couples, and families recov…
01:02:16 |
Mon 17 Mar 2025
Ep286 – Identity as a Cause of Addiction
Drinkers often becomes aware of the loss of identity associated with sobriety, but on this episode, Sheri and Matt discuss the role of varying categories of identity as a cause of addiction. Sheri re…
01:11:27 |
Mon 10 Mar 2025
Ep285 – Sober Sex in Relationships Roundtable
The recovery community is full of resources about sex after alcohol for singles, but sober sex in relationships is a topic that has been ignored...until now. Nicole, Tess, and Alan are featured on th…
01:27:33 |
Mon 03 Mar 2025
Ep284 – Sexual Violations in Alcoholic Relationships
Trigger warning: sexual assault and violence
Unconsented sex occurs in relationships impacted by problematic alcohol consumption at a rate 18 times more frequently than in general population relatio…
Unconsented sex occurs in relationships impacted by problematic alcohol consumption at a rate 18 times more frequently than in general population relatio…
01:01:57 |
Mon 24 Feb 2025
Ep283 – Kelly on Thriving when the Marriage Does Not Survive
It was not her choice. Kelly shared with her husband what she needed from the marriage, and he asked for a divorce. Sometimes boundaries and detachment are not enough for the drinker to seek recovery…
Mon 17 Feb 2025
Ep282 – Reconnecting after Detachment
Attachment and connection are not the same thing. Detachment in a healthy relationship in recovery from alcoholism is a permanent state. If done with respect, consistency, and emotional safety, choos…
01:05:52 |
Mon 10 Feb 2025
Ep281 – Live Roundtable from the Bahamas
You can almost hear the turquoise Caribbean waves lapping in the background of this conversation recorded live from the annual Marriagevolution retreat, this year in the Bahamas. Hear how things chan…
01:14:15 |
Mon 03 Feb 2025
Ep280 – Moving Beyond Eggshells with Marjorie
Marjorie is certified in trauma and addiction support, and she is a leader in our Echoes of Recovery program. On this episode, she helps Sheri and Matt understand that, "You can't think your way out …
01:15:08 |
Mon 27 Jan 2025
Ep279 – Why Men are Failing
The industrialized world is experiencing an epidemic of men who are unemployed or underemployed, not married or dating, living with their parents, and suffering deaths of despair. And the gender gap …
01:13:43 |
Mon 20 Jan 2025
Ep278 – Sex Talk with Nikki
Nikki speaks boldly and vulnerably about a wide variety of taboos sex subject. From sex-drive discrepancy after childbirth to feelings of sexual brokenness to the sloppy disconnected sex of active ad…
01:16:57 |
Mon 13 Jan 2025
Ep277 – “Freeze” as a Defense Mechanism
Nervous system activation is often described as one of these four reactions: fight, flight, freeze or fawn. Sheri used all four tools to protect herself in her marriage to Matt during and after his a…
00:58:39 |
Mon 06 Jan 2025
Ep276 – Despair and Hopelessness of the Week Between
The week between the holidays carries with it a cascade of emotions for people in a relationship experiencing active addiction or recovery. Sheri and Matt talk about the baggage this one-of-a-kind we…
01:01:21 |
Mon 30 Dec 2024
Ep275 – Self-Control and Detachment from Family at the Holidays
Is self-control detachment? Sheri and Matt might debate the definitions, but they agree on the value of controlling the controllables around family at the holiday season.
If you love or loved an alc…
If you love or loved an alc…
00:56:02 |
Mon 23 Dec 2024
Ep274 – Spiritual Curiosity with David Bird
David Bird is a spiritual explorer with stories to tell about the hopelessness and lack of control of addiction, and the peace and freedom of knowing everything is going to be OK. Through major healt…
01:28:35 |
Mon 16 Dec 2024
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