Think Queerly

Document and reflect on the events in 2020 for the impact and meaningfulness they brought into your life. 

You might want to book 1-2 hours in your calendar to work your way through this process. You …

One of the biggest mistakes we make in human relationships is expecting others to act in a particular way. 

We may expect them to accept and care for us in a way that will satisfy our needs, but that …

It’s an interesting intellectual as well as an emotional challenge right now, trying to imagine how to feel or experience joy in another way, at a time when an event, a tradition called “Christmas” —…

In this episode, I share a process I created to manage prediction and response in disruptive times. I recorded this originally as a video on March 28, 2020, and while the content speaks to many of th…

When you prioritize what’s most important to you, instead of what you need to get done, you reduce frustration, increase joy, and experience more freedom.

We all have too much to do, too many tasks, e…

It is only the ego that, needing to be right and recognized, holds on to resentment.

If you continue to hold on to the past, clinging to a past narrative, however painful — one that you play over and …

Helping human-hearted creatives cultivate acceptance, connection, and tranquillity to experience more freedom, impact, and joy in life.

The intention of my coaching philosophy is to help you create mo…

My personal manifesto is a set of truthful statements. They are not affirmations, they are not my purpose, nor are they future-based outcomes. They are statements of facts that I see demonstrated in …

What you believe you know can be questioned.

What you are certain you know may be a mistake; a fault of logic.

Even what you think you know may be challenged with new information, a clearer perspective…

Expectations are artificial projections onto the external world about something we want to force into being - either unrealistic expectations of ourselves or limitations we attempt to umbrella over o…

A few weeks ago I received a comment on one of my most-read articles, “From Sissy Boys to Straight-Acting Gay Men.” The person shared the following:

“I don’t agree with the premise of this article tha…

To argue that “religious freedom should outweigh LGBTQ rights” is a denial of the existential freedoms of LGBTQ people, which is also a slippery slope to denying freedoms to other “marginalized” peop…

If you want to liberate and experience your most authentic self, you will have to risk leaning into fully expressing your uniqueness, your difference, and your quirkinesses.

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No one can make you feel the way you feel.

I cannot make you angry. A politician cannot make you angry. A friend, partner, or your dog cannot make you happy.

Only you can choose your feelings based on …

Religions are constructs of the mind used to control the minds of the many.

There is a reason why the bible refers to followers as sheep and the spiritual leader as a “herder.” Even the language of re…

Taoism is known for using metaphor, paradox, and dualities to express the natural world and the natural order of reality. Sometimes people find it confusing trying to understand the relationship betw…

Show Notes

• How do you look beyond what you believe to be true, fixed, or finite?
• Sometimes what we see is not what we see.
• We most often understand polarities from extreme ends. I propose we shift our f…

The 6 Principles for Cultivating Open-Hearted Personal Leadership

The 1st Principle: Non-Contention

The simple act of compassionate, open-hearted listening reduces the threat response for another perso…

Welcome to my new, year-long series, “Thinking Queerly” —  a revisiting of my book, “Think Queerly: Meditations & Critical Reflections On Liberating Humanity.” Over the next 52-weeks, I will be selec…

The beauty industry — which includes cosmetics, fashion, weight-loss and body-building programs — is dependent upon a conventional concept that ugly is something universal and quantifiable based on w…