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How many times have you sought out someone’s opinion, or wanted someone to agree with you?

Maybe you didn’t know how to resolve a difficult situation and you asked what they thought. O…

This past weekend I was a guest on the Shaun Proulx Show on Canada Talks on SiriusXM Canada, channel 167.

Shaun and I went deep into the discussion that you are not your problems or your past stories.…

For many years I held onto my past. I thought about people who made me feel bad and unworthy. I reacted to how heteronormative culture boxed me in and made me feel shame for being a gay man. I felt l…

Do you stick to the appointments you make with other people and compromise or cancel appointments that you make with yourself?

What self-care habits are routine in your life?

What do you do on a daily …

Needing to be right is not who you are

In this episode I look at why we often go on the defensive about what we believe to be right, why we attack so easily when confronted with something we don’t agr…

Taking risks is not about trying to be different or trying to make a name for yourself. This is not the same as riding a rollercoaster or sky-diving. This is a risk of the soul, exposing your truth, …

Do you have a vision for what your dream life looks like? Or do you have a mission, or what some refer to as having a calling in life?

You can have all of the above. As an example, I am consciously cr…

The outcome of this self-assessment process is to gain clarity on the reasons for your problems, struggles or challenges. Once you get clarity on what’s holding you back, you can then come up with so…

Why do we act mean or disrespectful towards others?

Why don't we realize that this is a lack of self-respect?

When we attack, harass, bully, defame, or call someone names, it is a reflection of our own…

Have you left the best parts of you in the closet?

As a metaphor, the closet can be the place where you’ve suppressed and hidden away the best parts of who you are. These are your hidden dreams and de…

A contemplative tale

One early morning last week on my way to the gym, I saw a homeless man wandering aimlessly. I looked away, avoiding eye contact, and kept going, pretending that it shouldn't matte…

Do you ever catch yourself in your own bullshit, making excuses for why you can’t do something, or why you don’t want to do something?

What are the things you’re lying to yourself about that are holdi…

This episode was inspired by a recent post on my LGBTQ publication, Th-Ink Queerlyabout one person’s coming out process, and specifically her fears. I found it interesting because it became a list of…

This past Sunday night, July 22 in Toronto, Faisal Hussain, a 29-year-old resident went on a shooting rampage on a number of Danforth Avenue restaurants. A 10-year-old girl and and and 18-year-old wo…

Something I learned about myself some time ago, was how gay shame was holding me back and limiting my success. I was afraid of other people’s options of me.

For many gay men it’s challenging to feel g…

Responding to the Perpetrators who cause pain and injustice

On a daily basis – if you read headline news – there appears to be so much pain and anguish in the world. Often our intrinsic, immediate res…

If you do any kind of work in the public eye, whether you write, podcast, record videos, and so on, you need to be ready for the haters. And by the way, this includes posting to your personal Twitter…

Setting a standard of leadership starts with self-awareness

One of the many test of leadership is seen when the leader must make difficult decisions that affect other people.

True leadership is borne w…

If Pride remains a protest, where does that leave us?

Pride will always be political so long as it continues to exist.

Pride, as a celebration — because it is celebrated — is a priori political because…

Let’s talk about sex!

How does a sexual position make you feel and what does that say about you? Are you versatile, or do you only like it one way?

What was the impact of your first sexual experience o…