Think Queerly

Recently I asked a question in an LGBTQ Professionals Group on Facebook. Here’s what I posted:

I’m creating a small group mastermind for gay men to explore their unique and vital role in society, and …

What’s the obstacle in your way? Is it someone, some event, or some thing?

In every instance the only thing in your way is you – it’s up to you to take the necessary steps that will allow you to pass …

The expression of human sexuality, and the freedom to have sex with whomever we desire, was a defining quality in the early gay-rights movement, pre-AIDS. How things have changed, and yet, how some t…

Happy Valentine's Day, 2019!

My boyfriend, my partner, my lover, brings me joy every day.

Moments of joy is what keeps our love alive, strong, and enduring.

It’s not about how much money either of us ma…

The basic human fear of anyone else who is unlike us, too dissimilar, or who holds a different view of the world is the original binary.

The original binary is the ego versus all else.

The binary begin…

Living OUT Leadership for Gay Men

“Gay spirit speaks to the vitality that gay men possess, which is palpable but defies easy description.” – Raymond Rigoglioso

I believe that gay men have a unique oppo…

What we think is what we intend

When we speak our ideas and intentions, our words initiate action, whether that be our own, or the inspiration for others to act.

To answer the question above, what I se…

One of the promises made by the current Ontario PC government was that they would repeal the 2015 Ontario sex-ed curriculum installed by the former Liberal government if they won the election. They r…

In the last episode I waxed nostalgic about, The Good Old Days of Meeting Men for Sex at Gay Bars – LOP054. Today’s episode picks up from where I left off, talking about the different challenges in c…

I was 19 years old and had been going out to gay bars for about six months. It was a warm summer night in 1985 as I leaned against a post by the dance floor, sipping my beer, enjoying the music, and …

Today’s podcast takes the form of a meditative thought experiment.

An awareness came through me this morning while moving in my fitness routine. My mind was open to the subconscious drip of what I had…

Praise for Gillette’s #MeToo ad on 'toxic masculinity'

What is the opposite of toxic masculinity? I would suggest it is what Ray Rigoglioso refers to as “authentic masculinity” in his book, Gay Men an…

Dealing with criticism versus personal attack

When someone responds with a criticism or attack on my articles or podcast, that’s often a good sign. It means I’m pushing buttons and triggers.

Often the …

It’s Story Time…

It was 1999, Toronto, and the day after I broke up with my boyfriend, my former ex from Ottawa moved in with us. This would have made the perfect backstory for a gay version of “Three…

Think Differently with Healthier Thoughts

Many gay men, myself included, have at some point tried to improve their physical appearance to attract other men. They have felt that, in order to be accepte…

In today’s episode I speak with Raymond L. Rigoglioso, the founder and executive director of Gay Men of Wisdom (www.gaymenofwisdom.org) and author of Gay Men and The New Way Forward (Mond Press, 2015…

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me.”

The intention behind words matters.

How a word is used will affect the receiver in communication. Words can lift people up, but the…

The fewer fears we have the more open-minded and accepting we are of possibilities and variations in all aspects of life and humanity.

When we are afraid of the wrath of an imaginary being in the sky,…

Now is the perfect time to review the events of this past year.

What went well for you? What were your wins, moments you were most proud of, goals that you accomplished, etc.? What did you struggled w…

Over the last few episodes of the Living OUT Podcast I’ve been discussing the unique gifts that gay men bring to the world. During this process I’ve discovered more about my true purpose – not in the…