Lit AF Relationships

In this episode, I interview Jessica Fern author of Polysecure. I really wanted to have her on the show because this book is an amazing resource about attachment for both monogamous and nonmonogamous…

Fizzling is when someone you’re talking to online or have been on a date with puts the brakes on communicating with you. They don’t completely ghost you but the conversation starts slowing down like …

In this episode I answer a listener’s question that is struggling with distrust in their relationship. Their dismissive avoidant partner has a habit of lying and she is triggered by his behavior. Thi…

In today’s episode I share how I healed my fearful avoidant attachment type. The fearful avoidant attachment style flip flops between anxious preoccupied and dismissive avoidant so there are some goo…

Are you communicating on the dating apps and feeling anxious? In this episode I share a few tips on how to communicate on dating apps when you have an anxious preoccupied attachment style. This episo…

Breakups can trigger your attachment system which makes them especially painful to navigate.

In this episode I review how each of the different attachment styles handle a breakup including anxious pre…

Are you dating someone new and getting too excited or overwhelmed about it? You’re not alone! This is so common for anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant attachment types. In…

So you’ve been going to therapy for years and you’re not seeing any changes? I get it. I went to therapy for about four years and I didn’t see much drastic change. In this episode I talk about the di…

Are you doing dating math around dating in your city? Do you think your city is in fact the worst city to date? Do you live in Los Angeles, New York, San Francisco, Seattle, London, Paris, or Chicago…

Are you ruminating about breaking up with your partner? If breaking up with your partner is your go-to reaction whenever there is conflict in your relationships this episode is for you! This is a ver…

This week’s episode was recorded in front of a live audience at Whitney Cubbison’s San Francisco book launch of Will Be There Wine. I always love using books, movies, and tv shows to understand our o…

Are you bad at conflict? Does conflict feel triggering to you? It likely has to do with your attachment style and how your caregivers addressed conflict growing up. In this episode I explain what att…

Today I’m reviewing the four different attachment types so you can answer the question, what attachment style am I? Listen to understand the four attachment types anxious preoccupied, dismissive-avoi…

In today’s episode, I sit down with my husband, Adrian Cardenas, to talk about my wild and crazy birth story. I had an unmedicated in a hospital. It was an incredible learning and growth experience b…

In today’s episode, I share how perfectionism shows up on the road to secure attachment. I recently caught myself being a super perfectionist about my own attachment style in preparation for the birt…

Today’s episode features Markie Mullins, an astrologer, yoga instructor, oracle card reader, and retreat leader. We have an amazing conversation about reading charts and where astrology and attachmen…

Today’s show takes a bit of a turn off the beaten personal and spiritual growth path and focuses on the impact of the recent overturning of Roe v. Wade. This episode features stories about birth, pre…

We’re talking about astrology with this week’s guest Dana Augustine. She is a teacher, astrologer, and the host of the Self Help Witch podcast. She kicks off the episode with an astro update so you k…

Today I’m joined by career coach Ali Dunn. We have an amazing conversation about why it’s important for women to start speaking up in the workplace and asking for raises. She shares her top tips and …

This week I am joined by astrologer Nadia Diamante. Nadia is an ethical hedonist, sapphic queer with an irreverent and wild spirit and a love for all people of all identities. She gives us an astro u…