Intentional Living with Tanya Hale

Have you ever paid attention to how often you use the phrase, 'I don't know'?  It seems to be a default for our brain when it doesn't want to expend the energy and the effort to figure something out.…

We are just starting into the holiday season and there's one thing so many of us dread - the drama.  But what if we could drop the drama?  What if we could just enjoy the people, the conversations, t…

It can be so easy to see the inconsistencies between how we're living and how we really want to be living, and the space between these two is really important.  Often, we may find that this space is …

Peace is something that is often on the top of our want list.  We want to have peace in our lives, to be free of contention.  But so often we go about 'keeping the peace' by not being honest or speak…

Growth is not just a byproduct of challenges, it is also a skill to be learned. When we develop the skill of growth, over time it becomes easier and even fun, just as any skill we learn does. When th…

Divorce can be one of those circumstances that seems like it spirals us into negative thoughts and feelings. And though it can be challenging because it necessitates that we show up differently than …

Many of us in middle-age have lost touch with what we really want in life. We've forgotten about our desires and our dreams, our wants and our wishes. Learning to tap into these again, or for the fir…

Do you have a tough time accepting compliments? You're not alone. Today we're going to work on understanding why it can be so difficult and how to learn to accept them more graciously. It's such a va…

I've heard this phrase so many times throughout my life. In fact, I'm sure I've used it more than once. And today it's time to take a look at how this thought, and others like it, are not serving us.…

Our relationships are being destroyed by our imaginations.  When we struggle to accept people as they are and live in the land of 'should' by expecting them to be something they're not, we are destro…

Have you ever seen someone do or say something that just shocked you and you thought, "I would never act that way", or "I would never say something like that."  If so, you're not alone.  Today I want…

Our desire to control all the things - the people, the situations, the how's, when's, why's, and where's - is destroying our lives.  It comes packaged in cute phrases akin to,"I just want you to be h…

You know who I'm talking about.  Those people who push your buttons, who are so challenging to love, and who make you question yourself.  Today I will give you the tools to know how to deal with the …

I recently completed what is called a 90-day relationship - a predetermined time for a relationship in which you commit to intentionally create a healthy partnership and work through all of the inevi…

Sometimes our relationships can tend to get a little shallow. Specifically I notice my relationship with God, with myself, and with others can all struggle at times. That's because relationships are …

Just because you're single doesn't mean you have to be lonely.  Lonely is a feeling caused by our thoughts, when we learn to be more intentional about our thoughts, we will be more fulfilled and happ…

The first time we realize that our brain consistently lies to us, it can seem a little strange.  I think we have this underlying belief that our brain processes and figures things out and always tell…

All of us engage in dysfunctional behavior, unhealthy patterns of behavior that create disconnection.  Sometimes we're completely unaware of the dysfunction, but other times we intentionally choose t…

One of the toughest things about being a parent of adult children is letting go of the desire to continue to parent them.  We have been so used to having expectations of how we want them to behave an…