Tired of hearing “just put yourself out there” when it comes to friendship or community? Same.
Friendship IRL is the podcast that skips the fluff and gets real about what it takes to build meaningful adult friendships and lasting support systems. Whether you're struggling to make new friends, maintain old ones, or just want people in your life who really show up, you're in the right place.
Each week, host Alex Alexander brings you honest conversations and tangible strategies to help you connect—for real. You’ll hear stories from everyday people (plus the occasional expert), learn what’s working in modern friendships—and what definitely isn’t—and walk away with ideas, scripts, and action steps you can actually use.
Think of it like a coffee date with your wisest, most encouraging friend—the one who tells the truth and hands you the playbook.
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What are your friendship beliefs? What stories do you tell yourself about your friendships?
Today’s episode might be one of the most important I’ve ever recorded because it gets at the heart of so man…
I just want to make friends who are in the same stage of life as me.
In this business, I hear some of the same phrases over and over, and this is one of them. I love that goal, and it’s a big part of …
One thing I always say is creating a community is the ultimate self-care.
In today’s episode, we dive deep into this idea with my good friend Jenny Dreizen, who is the co-founder of the Fresh Starts R…
If you’re having a bad day, try bragging about a friend. Talk about that thing they did and why they’re so great – it will turn your whole day around.
Today I’m bragging about my new friend Anna Goldf…
How do we balance community and independence?
This question is posed by today’s guest, Donna Fields, who, twenty years ago, moved to Spain, and experienced culture shock, going from the United States …
Think about your closest friends. Have you ever felt yourself saying, maybe I just don’t know them anymore? Or, why is it so hard for us to get together?
Here’s a question I’m posing for today’s epis…
I’ve been paying more attention to my self talk lately, particularly my negative self talk.
It’s so easy to berate ourselves and give ourselves labels about our interactions. I’m a bad friend. I’m awk…
Today’s topic is female friendship, and to be honest, I’m a little overwhelmed by the responsibility.
I hear your stories about the intensity, cattiness, and drama of female friendships, but to tell y…
Today’s episode is all about holding space – and it’s a poignant reminder of the importance of friendship and how it can profoundly affect our lives, even after a friend has passed away.
Michelle Ceci…
How much Vitamin J are you getting in your life?
In today’s episode, we’re talking with Dr. Zarya Rubin, a Harvard educated functional medicine physician, and one of the questions she often asks patie…
Sometimes to feel closer to our friends there’s this pressure to share our most vulnerable feelings or unearth some deep, dark secret.
But what if I told you there are more ways to feel connected to …
How much time do you spend with the people who matter to you most?
This could be your partner, your kids, your family, your friends, your community. The answer will probably vary depending on your sea…
In this episode, we cover something I’ve been DYING to talk about: friendship in virtual reality. When you put on the headset and enter the VR world, what’s it like?
Today’s guest, Wesley Stroupe, is …
Never underestimate the power of the simple things, especially when it comes to friendship.
I love that we tackle the big topics on this podcast, but there’s a special place in my heart for episodes l…
Do you want to teach your kids how to make and maintain friendships?
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: modeling is so important, but as today’s guest Pam Howard points out, what’s also cruci…
When the term “learned loneliness” came across my desk, it made my ears perk up.
The idea of learned loneliness – that loneliness is now our new normal – resonates with me; I often find myself wantin…
Have you ever felt like a bad friend for not showing up for someone you care about?
Or maybe you’re frustrated that you’re ALWAYS showing up for everyone but feel like nobody reciprocates; or, MAYBE y…
Many adults today say they weren’t taught to make and maintain friendships. I’m often asked how we might break this cycle and model something different for the next generation.
What I keep coming back…
From happy hours to bottomless mimosa brunches, many friendships are held together by activities that involve alcohol.
Consequently, these friendships are often affected when one party stops drinking.…
How close do you live to your friends? Next door? Down the street? Or do many of your friends live on the other side of the country?
Today’s guest, Jenna Myhre Deyle, actually made a cross-country tr…