Conflict Owner's Manual
We help you use conflict competencies you already have, so you can do conflict better.
Dr. Deborah Sword is a specialist in conflict analysis and management. Tyson Bankert is a community facilitator and artist. We have decades of experience and training in helping people expand their conflict competencies.
Our logo is a dandelion because conflict is like a weed you don't want in the garden. But since it's there, you want to know how to manage it, keep it from spreading, and feel good about how you dealt with it.
- Update frequency
- every 3 days
- Average duration
- 6 minutes
- Episodes
- 96
- Years Active
- 2024 - 2025
17 Are disappointed expectations causing your conflicts?
When you expect something and it doesn't happen, who's to blame? What better ways are there to have your expectations met to your satisfaction? We discuss how to prevent conflict from disappointed ex…
16 Does bias influence your decision making in conflict?
Conflict drops a lot of decisions on you, and there's no perfect decision that guarantees the outcome you prefer. Your decisions in conflict depend on many factors, some of which are out of your cont…
15 Has that conflict really ended your relationship?
When does a relationship end? At the breakup over a conflict? Or when you stop reliving it in your mind? After the breakup, do you go over what happened, supplying all the dialogue with brilliant res…
14 How to get your conflict competence to rise
Taking emotional risks in conflict is like a leavening agent that helps your conflict competence rise. In this mini-cast, Deborah discusses how you can combine your skills like ingredients in a recip…
13 What common expressions are conflict competent?
Words we use show others how we view the world. If common expressions use fighting and battle language, what does that say about our mindset, and what common words would convey peace instead? Deborah…
12 Try this easy exercise to expand your conflict competence
There isn't one perfect way to get the result you want in a conflict, so it's helpful to have options. Here's an exercise that can give you more strategies for defusing situations, and managing confl…
11 What is Dialogue in conflict?
Dial down conflict heat with Dialogue as a process. When high emotion makes dialogue for resolution seem impossible, try process Dialogue. Deborah and Tyson discuss how that works.
10 How does integrating ideas help manage conflict?
Integrating subjective and objective ideas helps the conflict analysis of your thinking, your assumptions, the context, and other variables that affect your conflict.
9 Conflict when the goals are the same
Even when you agree on almost everything, you can still have conflict over the details. You may all want the same thing and disagree over how to accomplish your goal. Deborah and Tyson discuss what t…
8 What is a conflict analysis?
Analyzing your conflict ensures you answer the right question and solve the right problem. Deborah gives tips for conducting your conflict analysis.
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7 How thinking affects your thinking in conflict
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Dr. Deborah Sword is a conflict specialist with decades of experience and training to share.
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How do you define "conflict"
Conflicts are different than disagreements, so it's helpful to define the word. Deborah offers a useful definition that also shows you where you can change the conflict dynamic.
How to change the other person in a conflict
You have more power and opportunity to change a conflict situation than you might believe.
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Why is our logo a dandelion?
Conflict is like a dandelion. A weed is unwelcome and hard to eliminate, but also has a use. In this mini-cast you will hear tips for managing and for using conflict.
How to develop your conflict competence
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Dr. Deborah Sword is a conflict specialist with decades of experience and training to share.
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Your conflict pattern
What you most often do in conflict becomes your default pattern, and gets stronger than conflict strategies that you don't choose as often. It's a choice.
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