Why Does My Partner

How is it that two people can live through the same thing and one person experiences it as traumatic and the other person experiences it in a completely different way?  The answer is often a combinat…

This week, Jules, Vickey, and Rebecca consider the many reasons why our partners might worry that we are cheating on them.  The question really is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to how our…

Sooner or later, everyone reaches a point in their relationship when they ask, “Why did my partner even marry me at all?  Why are they with me?”  It’s a question that typically comes up when things h…

Let’s talk about different options when it comes to therapy, get honest about what therapy feels like and help support you in going after what you want if therapy is right for you.  We also get curio…

Does your partner blame you for a ton of stuff?  Whether you are the blamer or the blame this episode is sure to help. In this one  we help you think through assessing what’s blaming and what’s not. …

What happens when a situation is feeling unfair?  What if there are skills and deficits in each of you that are different...what if those differences drive you crazy?  We’ll face grief, talk about di…

In this episode we take on the question "why does my partner get so emotional? Emotions are annoying and they don't serve a purpose anyway." And our answer begins with the science behind why emotions…

We love this question from someone wondering about what’s going on inside them when they don't compliment their partner. And we take it as an invitation to explore Us Consciousness: Are you ‘Me focus…

Can we talk about normal marital hatred?  Yes, that’s true it is normal. We explore the three phases of a long term relationship, look at how to hold each other in warm regard even as we suck and get…

Let’s talk about touch, intimate touch, fun touch, how we communicate to our partners what touch we enjoy.  This is a light and fun episode and yes, we do talk about sex. We’ll get into how to learn …

In this one, we look at layers of how this might be an issue. We share a few different things that might be coming up for you and we talk about ways to soothe yourself and trust yourself.  We all str…

How do we handle differences with our partners? Are we excited by them?  Are we drawn to them? Are we repelled by them?  We explore the stress we are under, dealing with loneliness and looking at one…

We talk about over functioning and under functioning in this episode. This is a common dynamic in many partnerships. We tackle invisible work, emotional labor and gender roles. Yes we will weigh in o…

We don’t shy away from the complexity that is human beings in this episode. Buckle in for an extended episode, we’ll dive deep into the science and into what relational skills will work. How can we t…

In this episode, we’ll explore humor, the stories we tell ourselves and how fast those stories lead to reactivity.  Do our stories about what’s happening in our love lives help us or cost us or both?…

In this episode, we talk about Boundaries and so much more. Do we absorb too much? Or is nothing getting through? If our Boundaries are in place, we’re able to be curious and see the deeper needs und…

Why do we say yes when we don’t mean it? Do we know our own answers? Can we be vulnerable and can we allow our partner to be vulnerable? This episode is chock-full of skills: not saying yes when we m…

Defensiveness in relationships is normal and something all of us experience at one time or another. In this episode, we discuss the things that could be behind that defensiveness. Are you communicati…

Can we go deeper with love languages? Your hosts have 3 different views on how helpful love languages are and we discuss it with no holds barred and collaboration. Today we focus on skills that come …

Neuroscience will bring compassion to us all!  Let’s learn what the brain does and what to do in response to the brain doin’ what it does.  We’ll be talking about learning to watch our minds and bodi…