Untoxicated Podcast
Sheri and Matt Salis just wanted a normal life – normal marriage, normal careers, a normal house and happy kids. Instead, they lived a life of lies and terror as they struggled with Matt’s alcoholism. While their experience sounds rare, with over 15 millions problem drinkers in America, their alcoholic marriage was all too normal.
Matt has been writing about their experiences in alcoholism and recovery for years. On the Untoxicated Podcast, Sheri and Matt talk about it, too.
No subjects are off limits as the couple discusses the trauma of active addiction, the pain of early recovery, the destruction and rebuilding of trust, and the impact on their intimate relationship. If you love an alcoholic, the disease will terrorize your relationship. We hope you’ll listen and find healing in our shared stories.
For more support from Sheri and Matt, check out their Echoes of Recovery program providing connection and healing for the loved ones of alcoholics.
- Update frequency
- every 5 days
- Average duration
- 59 minutes
- Episodes
- 324
- Years Active
- 2020 - 2025
Ep193 – Recovery Timeline
Sheri and Matt talk about the individual pieces of recovery all the time: resentment processing, nervous system stabilization, trust building, intimacy, etc. But until now, they have never put the pi…
00:51:06 |
Mon 29 May 2023
Ep192 – The Power of Choice
Seven women who have made the impossibly difficult choice to move on from alcoholism through divorce talk about the challenges and the triumphs of their own personal recoveries. Some had small childr…
01:24:59 |
Mon 22 May 2023
Ep191 – Accountability, Envy, Fear, Anger & Blaming the Alcohol
Many of the people finding success in the alcoholism recovery community embrace some form of assigning the blame to the alcohol. And yet, so many people who are trying to recover, both the alcoholics…
00:55:37 |
Mon 15 May 2023
Ep190 – Demand what You Deserve
If you are the spouse of an alcoholic, you deserve sobriety. But even once your relationship enters sobriety, you deserve more. You deserve a partner who carries his own weight, and is tough enough t…
00:53:27 |
Mon 08 May 2023
Ep189 – Will I Ever Trust Again?
Sheri and Matt break trust down into three components: safety, intimacy and honesty. Trust is the last thing to come back in a marriage that has suffered through alcoholism, and understanding how to …
00:57:32 |
Mon 01 May 2023
Ep188 – Relapse Threat after Rehab
The threat of relapse after an inpatient rehab is real, but the threat is coming from more directions than we might understand. Sheri and Matt talk about threats posed by loss of identity, a lack of …
00:49:01 |
Mon 24 Apr 2023
Ep187 – What is Fun?
As a drinker, alcohol was an major component of Matt's identity. And alcohol also influenced how he had fun. Phrases like, "Work hard, play hard," and, "You'll get all the sleep you need when you're …
00:53:53 |
Mon 17 Apr 2023
Ep186 – Marriages in Recovery Need Sex
Did the definitive statement of this episode title get your attention? We know there are strong emotions when it comes to sex and intimacy in relationships impacted by alcoholism, and Sheri and Matt …
01:00:56 |
Mon 10 Apr 2023
Ep185 – Simply Health Conscious with Graham Hawley
Get ready to get your nutrition, exercise and healthy habits on with Graham Hawley - certified health and wellness coach, Matt's soccer buddy and the inspiration behind Sheri's and Matt's plan for re…
01:20:06 |
Mon 03 Apr 2023
Ep184 – Danger from Within
What happens when the person you trust and most rely on for mutual protection becomes the most dangerous person in your life? Does this sound like a setup for Matt to exaggerate? Hear Sheri's emotion…
00:54:28 |
Mon 27 Mar 2023
Ep183 – The Truth Seeping Out with Mindy and Deb
Warning - Discussion includes talk of self harm.
Living with alcoholism means trying to keep the truth a secret. But as alcoholism progresses, the truth seeps out. Sheri and Matt are joined by Mindy…
Living with alcoholism means trying to keep the truth a secret. But as alcoholism progresses, the truth seeps out. Sheri and Matt are joined by Mindy…
01:05:57 |
Mon 20 Mar 2023
Ep182 – Navigating Positive, Neutral, Negative and Silent Reactions
Sheri and Matt react to Amber Hollingsworth's advice from Ep181 about how the spouse of an alcoholic can respond to the behavior of the person suffering from addiction. Their discussion about their r…
00:49:49 |
Mon 13 Mar 2023
Ep181 – Put the Shovel Down with Amber Hollingsworth
She is an addiction counselor who values the role of the family in the addiction recovery process. She shares a wealth of resources on her Hope for Families website. But many of our listeners know he…
01:13:17 |
Mon 06 Mar 2023
Ep180 – The Role of Intimacy in Relationship Recovery
Sheri and Matt review Come As You Are, the best-selling book by Dr. Emily Nagoski. They discuss sexual anatomy and how we all have the same parts just organized in different ways. Matt tells Sheri wh…
00:53:36 |
Mon 27 Feb 2023
Ep179 – Worthiness Roundtable
Being on the receiving end of the lies, gaslighting and manipulation of alcoholism can make it tough to feel worthy. On this special roundtable episode, Sheri and Matt welcome five survivors with liv…
01:05:30 |
Mon 20 Feb 2023
Ep178 – The Parents Alcoholism (and Recovery) Made Us
Sheri and Matt are eager to break some of the generational patterns that resulted in underlying causes of addiction for Matt. In this episode, the couple talks about the habits, instinctual reactions…
00:40:15 |
Mon 13 Feb 2023
Ep177 – Writing the Trauma Out with Liz
When she found her husband drinking alcohol with their underage kids, the scene triggered an unexpectedly life-changing response. At first, Liz thought it was the last straw. After writing and proces…
00:57:20 |
Mon 06 Feb 2023
Ep176 – Why Sheri and Matt Are Not Psychologists or Therapists
The answer to this episode title has morphed over the years from: they couldn't imagine anyone would want to listen to what they have to say, to: "imposter syndrome," to: groups are dynamic, to: the …
00:49:54 |
Mon 30 Jan 2023
Ep175 – Couples Roundtable: The Threat of Relapse
Eight loving, empathetic, hard-working alcoholism survivors sitting around a big microphone - it's a roundtable episode recorded during our winter Marriagevolution Couples Retreat in the mountains of…
01:11:24 |
Mon 23 Jan 2023
Ep174 – Reconciling the Joys of Alcohol
There is no arguing the fact that without alcohol, Sheri and Matt would never have met. It is also an undisputed reality that some of the best times the couple ever experienced were enhanced by alcoh…
00:57:54 |
Mon 16 Jan 2023
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