Untoxicated Podcast
Sheri and Matt Salis just wanted a normal life – normal marriage, normal careers, a normal house and happy kids. Instead, they lived a life of lies and terror as they struggled with Matt’s alcoholism. While their experience sounds rare, with over 15 millions problem drinkers in America, their alcoholic marriage was all too normal.
Matt has been writing about their experiences in alcoholism and recovery for years. On the Untoxicated Podcast, Sheri and Matt talk about it, too.
No subjects are off limits as the couple discusses the trauma of active addiction, the pain of early recovery, the destruction and rebuilding of trust, and the impact on their intimate relationship. If you love an alcoholic, the disease will terrorize your relationship. We hope you’ll listen and find healing in our shared stories.
For more support from Sheri and Matt, check out their Echoes of Recovery program providing connection and healing for the loved ones of alcoholics.
- Update frequency
- every 5 days
- Average duration
- 59 minutes
- Episodes
- 324
- Years Active
- 2020 - 2025
Ep52 – A Message for Your Alcoholic Partner
As an active alcoholic, Matt thought all of his attempts to control his drinking, his pontifications about how it would be different this time, and his complaints about how bad he felt after a binge,…
00:57:54 |
Mon 07 Sep 2020
Ep51 – How Sheri’s Cold Detachment Contributed to Matt’s Sobriety
After a decade of developing disdain for her alcoholic husband, the disease transformed Sheri into a bit of bitch. And now, looking back, no one is happier about the bitchiness than Matt.
Sheri and …
Sheri and …
00:39:39 |
Mon 31 Aug 2020
Ep50 – The Raw, Naked Truth about Socializing Sober
Socializing sober is not just a challenge for alcoholics in recovery. Everyone impacted by this disease has to find a groove in a society that depends on alcohol for all social occasions. In this epi…
00:43:59 |
Mon 24 Aug 2020
Ep49 – Getting from Here to the Relationship You Want
Sobriety doesn't fix anything, but it is a prerequisite for recovery from an alcoholic marriage. Once we realize we have removed alcohol, and our relationship is getting worse, we've got a lot of wor…
00:58:46 |
Mon 10 Aug 2020
Ep48 – Fairytale: When Relationship Recovery Feels Out of Reach
We asked a group of loved ones of alcoholics to read a chapter of our book, soberevolution, that will be released on September 23rd. The chapter is titled "Healing Wounds," and it is about working th…
01:01:04 |
Mon 03 Aug 2020
Ep47 – The Emotional Volatility of Living with Alcoholism
We talk a lot of the trauma and pain of living with an alcoholic, but we rarely share the details. In this episode, Sheri and Matt talk about the emotional struggles of confronting alcoholism head on…
00:53:53 |
Mon 27 Jul 2020
Ep46 – Impact: Here’s Why You’re Not a Failure
Recovery is not a binary choice. You are not a success if you are sober, and a failure if you relapse. The same is true for the loved ones of alcoholics. Perfection should not be the goal. Progress s…
00:56:19 |
Mon 20 Jul 2020
Ep45 – The Revealing Truth of Sobriety
I thought I was so funny, cute, smart and charming when I was drinking. Little did I know, I was just a loud and boorish bloviator of intoxicated rambling. Now I'm sober. Now I see it.
In this episo…
In this episo…
00:56:02 |
Mon 13 Jul 2020
Ep44 – You Drank Yourself Silly: The Brain Chemistry of Alcoholism
If you are the loved one of an alcoholic, it is easy to blame poor lifestyle choices and lack of willpower for the jam your abusive drinker has gotten the both of you into. But it is far more complex…
00:56:24 |
Mon 06 Jul 2020
Ep43 – Relationship Recovery Dry Relapse
A dry drunk is a label associated with someone who white-knuckles his way through sobriety. A dry drunk might not be drinking alcohol, but he is not learning, growing or seeking the enlightenment of …
00:59:26 |
Mon 29 Jun 2020
Ep42 – The Alcohol is Gone, But the Asshole Lingers
One of the most common concerns Sheri and Matt hear from the loved ones of alcoholics is, "He's a drunk asshole now, but what if he sobers up, and he's still an asshole?" The processes of alcoholism …
00:44:11 |
Mon 22 Jun 2020
Ep41 – Parenting Sober: Journey into the Unknown
Sheri and Matt had drastically different exposures to alcohol when we were growing up, and we carried that experience into our parenting roles. Our kids were all exposed to Matt's alcoholism, to vary…
00:54:07 |
Mon 08 Jun 2020
Ep40 – Friendships Lost in Recovery
Sheri and Matt are big believers in the power of vulnerability, and the huge gains in enlightenment and healing we have made as a result of recovering out loud. But in this episode, we talk about fri…
00:48:49 |
Tue 26 May 2020
Ep39 – Instinct Over Insecurity: When Pushing It Down Stops Working
Sheri and Matt talk about the evolving process of learning to trust instincts. The greatest challenge to listening to what she knows to be true are the lingering alcoholic relationship insecurities.
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00:57:49 |
Mon 18 May 2020
Ep38 – It Turns Out My Wife’s Not a Bitch
I had a huge ego as an active alcoholic. I thought I was great. My wife, Sheri, found me repulsive and stupid, and she felt betrayed by my love of alcohol. When I stopped drinking, Sheri's feelings a…
00:47:10 |
Fri 08 May 2020
Ep37 – It’s Sheri’s Turn: A Sense of Recovery Urgency
Active alcoholism is selfish, but everyone knows that. Early sobriety is equally selfish, but this time, for a good reason. For Matt and Sheri, our relationship has long been about prioritizing Matt'…
00:49:09 |
Mon 27 Apr 2020
Ep36 – Sheri’s Lingering Fears from the Trauma of Alcoholism
Three years into recovery from Matt's alcoholism, fearful anticipation lingers for Sheri. In this episode, we discuss the worry and anxiety that Sheri feels when bringing up even the most innocent an…
00:39:17 |
Tue 14 Apr 2020
Ep35 – Echoes of Recovery: Healing for the Loved Ones of Alcoholics
One of the most widely accepted misperceptions about alcohol addiction is that the drinkers are the only people facing enormous challenges in recovery. The fact is that the loved ones of alcoholics h…
00:48:20 |
Thu 02 Apr 2020
Ep34 – Pandemic Policy Fuels Epic Liquor Store Lines
On our first remotely recorded episode due to the COVID-19 pandemic, Matt and Debbie Scheer discuss the public policy decision that threw Denver into chaos. The mayor announced that liquor stores and…
00:30:46 |
Thu 26 Mar 2020
Ep33 – Quarantine and Isolation – Alcohol will Only Make it Worse
While the COVID-19 pandemic is nothing like the terrorist attack on America we suffered during 9/11, it does isolate and confine us in a similar way. Back then, 19 years ago, I sat on the couch, watc…
00:32:54 |
Fri 13 Mar 2020
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