Spilling Tea-quila
Welcome to Spilling Tea-quila, hosted by Arianna Cantor! Join me as we dive into authentic conversations filled with humility and humor. In each episode, I share my own experiences and insights, sometimes flying solo and other times inviting special guests to share their unique stories. Together, we’ll explore the messy, beautiful moments of life—because sometimes, the best lessons come with a splash of tea-quila. Cheers!
- Update frequency
- every 7 days
- Average duration
- 33 minutes
- Episodes
- 39
- Years Active
- 2024 - 2025
The Dating Plot Twist: Just Say What You Want
This episode is about why being “unattainable” is actually fake, exhausting, and not confidence at all. I’ve struggled with this pressure to be the girl no one can have, but the truth is I’m not buil…
You’re Not a Loser Because It Didn’t Work Out (You’re Probably Winning)
In this episode, I dive into how every ending in my life has actually been an upgrade in disguise—and why breakups don’t mean you’re losing, they mean you’re leveling up
It's Dramatic To Think You Can't Change Your Own Life
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In this episode, I dive into why it’s actually dramatic to believe we can’t change our own lives. I share stories from times when I felt stuck, convinced things would never shift, and how I sl…
How To Have An Ego Death
In today’s funeral for the ego we discuss how we’re happy that the ego is no longer with us. Ego only held us back from living our most genuine life. Grab a glass of tequila & dive into the why your …
F*ck Surface Level — I Want More (Friendships, Love, Career, Conversations)
In this episode, I dive into why surface-level living just doesn’t cut it. From friendships to dating to career, I share personal experiences that pushed me to crave more depth, more truth, and more …
Why Healthy Breakups Can Hurt More (The Ego Twist No One Talks About)
Everyone talks about toxic breakups — but what about the ones that seem healthy? In this episode, I’m opening up about a relationship that didn’t end in cheating or chaos… but in denial, ego battles,…
The Situationship That Was Never a Situation
Let me take you back to the moment I caught feelings way too fast, idealized a man after one hookup, and basically scared him all the way off the planet. This episode is about that situationship—the …
Happy Father’s Day (Daddy Issues Edition)
This episode is for anyone who didn’t grow up with a picture-perfect dad — or any father figure at all. I’m opening up about my complicated relationship (or lack of one) with my father, the impact it…
Girls Who Hate on Girls (The Psychology, The Pain & The Shift)
Let’s talk about the not-so-pretty side of female friendships—the jealousy, the gossip, the fake support. In this episode, I’m sharing the real stories behind the drama, the confusion, and the moment…
I’m Not Settling This Summer (Old Wounds, High Standards, and Dating Peacefully)
This week, I'm talking about what it really means to choose yourself. From feeling powerless in past relationships to learning how to grow without dragging others along, this episode is a guide for a…
Dating A 40 Year Old At 18 (Luxury, Lies, and Red Flags)
In this episode, I’m sharing the story of the first older man I ever dated—and everything it taught me about intuition, power, and what not to ignore just because the lifestyle looks good. You might …
My First Trip To Miami (Birthdays, Booze & Toxic Men)
Let me take you back to my 20th birthday — my first-ever trip to Miami. Picture this: me and my best friend taking airport shots at 7am , somehow not getting kicked out, and heading straight into cha…
Why Codependency Might Be the Root of All Relationship Drama
Is codependency ruining your relationships—without you even realizing it? In this episode, we get real about the emotional pressure we put on our friends, family, partners, and even coworkers when we…
From Self-Shaming to Self-Loving: My Truth About Body Image and Control
In this heartfelt episode where I still add humor, I delve into my personal journey from self-shaming to self-loving, sharing the challenges and triumphs of overcoming deep-seated body image issues. …
Hot Girl Summer, Delulu Dating & Friendship Realness ft. Tori Totaro
She’s back and spicier than ever—my good friend (and third-time guest!) Tori returns to the mic for a hilariously honest convo about dating delusions, friendship glow-ups, and the hold some men try t…
Stop Projecting on Me: The Truth About Toxic Friends, Family & Lovers
Ever felt judged, attacked, or misunderstood—only to realize later… it wasn’t even about you? This episode dives into projection—how other people throw their baggage at you (and how you might be doin…
I Was Faking the Chill Girl Act -Ep25
Alright, let’s be real—this whole “casual hookup” thing? Not my vibe. I tried to play it cool like I was fine with no-strings, no-feelings, just vibes... but nope. Turns out, I do want a connection. …
Stop Letting People Define You—They’re Wrong
In this episode of Spilling Tea-quila, we’re challenging the habit of categorizing people into neat little boxes. The truth is, most of us don’t fit into just one category—we’re complex, multifaceted…
E22- The Real Luxuries in Life (No, It’s Not a Birkin)
In this episode of Spilling Tea-quila, we’re serving up a reality check—because real luxury isn’t just fancy vacations and designer bags. It’s having healthy parents, a roof over your head, and even …
E21- You're Not Old, You're Just Getting Started
Why is everyone in a rush to call themselves old? Your late 20s, 30s, 40s—these are not the end of the road. Society loves to act like there’s an expiration date on fun, growth, and new experiences, …