Podcasts – Caught in the Cogs

Episode 28: Those Three Little Words (Podcast).

Love. Such a simple word, but too many people avoid it like other four-letter-words. Although a simple word, it certainly does not convey a simple conc…

Episode 27: Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs (Podcast).

One thing that has long baffled me is the answer to the question: “Why do good people cheat?” Maslow’s Hierarchy answered that for me, at least to b…

Episode 26: Long Distance Love.

Don’t listen to nay-sayers who tell you that long distance relationships don’t work. They do if you want them to. Like any relationship, it’s a lot of work and communi…

Episode 25: Choices After Indiscretion.

You cheated. Now what?

Your choices before an indiscretion are infinitely better than afterward, but you do still have choices if you’ve cheated on your partne…

Episode 24: Fear of Abandonment Can Lead to Infidelity.

We all fear abandonment, some of us fear it more deeply than others, but the thought of being alone can be very scary. And that fear can cause …

Episode 23: Protecting Your Heart.

Falling in love is intoxicating. There is no doubt. Our brains are full of those euphoric love chemicals and we feel full of life. And by all means, do fall in love…

Episode 22: Ending a Relationship with Love & Respect

Break ups are hard. They’re painful. They can be absolutely devastating and crippling, but they don’t have to be. There will be pain no matter wh…

Episode 21: When Your SO Says No to Polyamory.

Opening your marriage or LT relationship takes a lot of time, care, and effort. It’s not going to happen overnight. It’s probably not even going to happ…

Episode 20: Opening Up to Intimacy.

Intimacy is terrifying for many people, but it is essential for healthy, happy relationships. Building intimacy takes courage, not only the courage to open yoursel…

Episode 19: Chains of Victimization.

If you have been a victim of abuse or suffered through an abusive relationship, it is important to acknowledge the abuse, whether it neglect, verbal, emotional, p…

Episode 18: Breaking the Betrayal Bond.

Sometimes called Stockholm Syndrome, a betrayal bond is an inexplicable bond one makes with his/her abuser. Until that bond is recognized and broken, the victi…

Episode 17: For Better or For Worse.

As in the traditional marriage vows, we promise to stay together for better or for worse. And yes, in rough times like through financial difficulty or illness, we…

Episode 16: You Don’t Turn Me On.

In every relationship, as time progresses and the real world settles in, sexual and passion often fall to the side. Instead of looking elsewhere for that euphoric fi…

Episode 15: Breakup > Suffering Abuse.

Although breakups can be extremely painful and difficult, sometimes takes months or years to get over, it is always better than staying in an abusive or unhealt…

Episode 14: Sex as a Gift.

Too many people in our society devalue sex, and it’s unfortunate because, ultimately, sex is a beautiful gift. Get a woman’s perspective as to why.

Sex as a Gift (Podcast)

Episode 13: The Strength of Inara.

An exploration of the Firefly character Inara Serra and her inherent strength in the face of impossible love.

The Strength of Inara (Podcast)

Episode 12: Rebuilding Your Sense of Self.

It is very important, as you work through the stage of grief after a failed (and especially an abusive) relationship to rebuild your self-esteem, even thoug…

Episode 11: Love at First Sight.

Do you believe in Love at First Sight?

Love at First Sight (Podcast)

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Episode 10: Pathological Passion.

The root word for passion is the greek pathos, meaning “to suffer.” Same as the root word for pathological. I talk a bit about how passion might cloud our judgement …

Episode 9: Ethical Responsibility.

If we know about a deception that could destroy a marriage or relationship, do we have an ethical responsibility to tell the wronged party? Would you want to be tol…