Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
A Toxic relationship and Fake love looks real—until it destroys you.
Welcome to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, the podcast that exposes the hidden dynamics of toxic relationships, narcissistic abuse, and emotional manipulation. Hosted by Nova Gibson, leading trauma-informed counsellor and Director of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling, this podcast is your guide to breaking free from the confusion, fear, and self-doubt that come with being entangled with a narcissist.
In every episode, Nova draws from years of experience working with survivors to explore the complex, often covert tactics used in emotionally abusive relationships—from gaslighting, triangulation, and the silent treatment to smear campaigns and intermittent reinforcement.
Whether you're struggling with a narcissistic partner, parent, boss, or friend, Fake Love and Flying Monkeys gives you the tools and knowledge to understand the abuse, trust your instincts, and reclaim your power—even if the narcissist has never been formally diagnosed.
This is more than a podcast—it’s a lifeline.
You’ll get:
Clear explanations of narcissistic behaviour patterns
Practical strategies for setting boundaries and detaching
Real talk about the emotional rollercoaster of trauma bonding
Validation, clarity, and a path toward healing from narcissistic abuse
If you've ever felt trapped in a relationship that chips away at your self-worth, this podcast will help you name it, face it, and finally break free.
You’re not alone, and you’re not crazy. You’re in the fog of narcissistic abuse—and Nova is here to help guide you out.
Visit https://www.brighteroutlooknarcissisticabusecounselling.com.au/
for more support and resources.
It’s time to expose the fake love, silence the flying monkeys, and rewrite your story.
- Update frequency
- every 3 days
- Average duration
- 31 minutes
- Episodes
- 169
- Years Active
- 2024 - 2025
Narcissistic Abuse awareness - Vanessa Reiser
Vanessa is best known for running in a wedding dress, the state of New York (285 miles in 11 days), to raise awareness for narcissistic abuse. Vanessa M. Reiser is a licensed clinical social worker (…
5 ways the covert narcissist blameshifts
Narcissists expertly avoid accountability and deflect blame, while making you question your own reality. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we dive deep into the narcissist's favourite …
Why do narcissists ruin special occasions?
Whether it’s Christmas, your birthday, or a long-anticipated holiday, you can almost guarantee that a narcissist will find a way to ruin it. One of the most common tactics that narcissists use to ma…
The Narcissistic Mother daughter relationship.
The daughter of a narcissistic mother spends their whole life trying to please a toxic parent, who can't or won't love them unconditionally. To a narcissistic mother, their daughter represents a thre…
Why do Narcissists Go Back to their ex?
Narcissists love to keep as many exes as they can waiting in the wings so they can recycle them. But why do they do this? Why do they want to keep someone around whom they professed to hate so much? …
Surviving workplace narcissists and psychopaths - with David Gillespie, Australian Lawyer and best selling Author
A narcissistic boss or colleague, workplace bullying and covert measures of abuse make your life hell when you have to see them every day!
What do you when this is your job, you can't leave, and you…
How do you tell if someone is a narcissist?
Spotting a narcissist isn't as straightforward as we'd like—it’s not like they wear a sign that says "Stay Away!" The overuse of the word "narcissist" in society often dilutes the experiences of true…
Should you go to counselling with the narcissist?
The narcissist always has an agenda when they attend counselling with you.
That agenda NEVER involves fixing themselves or repairing the relationship with the person they love. The narcissist's agenda…
No contact with the Narcissist's Flying Monkeys
Narcissists use "flying monkeys" to get to you when they can't. These individuals, whether aware of it or not, are manipulated to do the narcissist's bidding. But are all flying monkeys toxic? In thi…
The narcissist doesn't care if you have evidence!
A victim finds evidence of the narcissist's lies and betrayals and confronts them. It is natural they would feel a sense of vindication. But what ACTUALLY happens when you confront the narcissist wi…
How do you cut ties with a toxic Parent?
Going no contact with a narcissistic, toxic parent is difficult. It takes time to understand this parent is never going to change and that you have the right to stop the abuse. The fear, obligation …
Why does the narcissist come back? - The Hoover manoeuvre explained
Narcissists have a way of reappearing in your life, often when you least expect it. After enduring the pain and chaos of narcissistic abuse, it's natural to ask yourself, "Why do they come back?" The…
Going to Court with a narcissist? - With special guest Karin Walker
It is so important to get the right lawyer when you are dealing with a narcissist. In this episode I speak with Karin Walker. Karin is an award winning lawyer who understands the narcissistic abuse c…
Children of Narcissists - How do they break free from the feelings of obligation and guilt?
The Narcissist will cause chaos in the relationships of their children to bring the focus back on to them. The narcissist experiences feelings of envy, abandonment and subsequent anger toward their c…
Will a Narcissist treat the next person better?
After everything the narcissist put you through, seeing them seemingly happier, more affectionate, or even more committed to someone else can feel like a dagger to the heart. One of the most painful …
Reporting Your Abuse to the Police - With Police Detective Brandon Wootan
An understanding of coercive Control, domestic violence, and narcissistic abuse are not issues that the average person associates with police. Historically, discrimination, racism, and domestic viole…
Why do Narcissists Devalue you?
The Narcissist will destroy all that is good about you because all of those amazing traits and qualities make them feel bad about themselves. Once the narcissist has hooked you in, the devaluation st…
Can anyone become a victim of narcissistic abuse?
A Counselor reveals her own experience with narcissistic abusers. Mental health professionals are not immune to the powerful trauma bond and the manipulative tactics of the narcissist.
In this episod…
LGBTQUIA Domestic Violence - A victim tells his story.
In the LGBTQ+ community, victims of narcissistic abuse/domestic violence do not have the same support as victims of domestic violence in a heterosexual relationship .
David, a young gay man tells his …
Should you tell the narcissist they're a narcissist?
What if you have proof they're a narcissist? You've done the research, and they tick all the boxes and appear to have at least 5 of the 9 traits for narcissistic personality disorder, and you want to…