Come Here To Me: Relationship Experts Walk the Talk

In "Pursuer Problems" Figs asks Teale to model moving from a negative "story of other" (blaming and criticizing your partner) to a self-compassionate "story of self" from the perspective of a "Pursue…

A listener's relationship issue is highlighted in "Married to a Workaholic" as Figs and Karen take a nuanced look at a system they've seen hundreds of times in couples.

In this case, the listener's hu…

In "Don't try this at home," Teale and Figs give each other feedback—something that is not a good idea when couples are fighting or feeling reactive with each other.

They take turns asking each other …

Couples Therapy Works is a new series from the Come Here To Me team delving into the complex work of couples therapy from the ground up. Each episode will feature one or more of Empathi’s own counsel…

Relationship Experts Walk The Talk is a deep dive into the struggles, cycles, and joys of relationship from couple and counselors Figs and Teale. Learn how to repair conflict and understand each othe…

Couples Therapy Works is a new series from the Come Here To Me team delving into the complex work of couples therapy from the ground up. Each episode will feature one or more of Empathi’s own counsel…

In their most vulnerable session yet, Figs and Teale talk about sex and intimacy in their relationship.

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Figs and Teale are trapped in the "Protest Polka" in this session around work/life balance. Learn to see a path out of the cycles you get trapped in with your partner.

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Pandemic parenting leaves Figs and Teale treading water in this episode from early 2021. Listen as they cycle through pandemic fears and conflicting values to something a little deeper.

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Figs and Teale process wounds around their daughter's difficult reaction to the early pandemic and explore the triggers and cultural context around their parenting style differences.

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Figs and Teale share a session deeply exploring a moment of reactivity outside of their relationship for Figs and the ways anger and shame can subsequently show up in their marriage.

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Figs and Teale reflect on the previous episode's climactic session and the revelations it brought for each of them.

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New and extraordinary emotional truth is shared in this session wherein Figs and Teale stop defending their stories and start experiencing the empathy and connection they long for. Discover insights …

"That which we resist, persists," in this therapy session featuring Figs and Teale trying to hide from a negative cycle.

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00:59 Introduction to the session: Figs & Teale colluding not to pro…

Figs and Teale reveal the unique challenges the podcast has presented in their relationship as they explore the role emotional processing plays for couples accomplishing tasks together.

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Figs is sent reeling when a session on repair goes in an unexpected direction when Teale tries to connect deeply. Explore the ways preconceptions shake up natural processes as Figs and Teale challeng…

Figs and Teale share a session digging into a recurring negative cycle triggered by waiting and discuss the difference between vulnerable or "Primary" feelings and "Secondary" blaming reactions and h…

In Come Here To Me's first bonus episode, Figs and Teale break down what "a cycle" means in a relationship by exploring the emotional bonding needs every human is born with.

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01:00 Small ta…

Figs and Teale share a clip of their first session with a couples therapist. Witness how the ways they miss each other escalates into hurt and blame and then ultimately resolves through the therapist…