Bare Marriage
Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with Bare Marriage--the blog!
- Update frequency
- every 7 days
- Average duration
- 55 minutes
- Episodes
- 311
- Years Active
- 2019 - 2025
Episode 274: The Marriage You Actually Want
The Marriage You Want is LIVE! Our book launched this week, and in this week's podcast we take a broad, investigative look into the state of evangelical marriage publishing, and why the…
Episode 273: Are Traditionally Christian Marriages Linked to More Immaturity? The Data Speaks!
It's episode 273 of the Bare Marriage podcast! We found that certain beliefs are correlated most with emotional immaturity--passive aggressiveness; outbursts of anger; emotional dysregu…
Episode 272: Is "Acts of Service" Love Language Really a Cry for Help? All New Bonus Stats!
What if the "acts of service" love language is masking something else--the totally unequal division of labor that many couples have, and Gary Chapman ignores? Plus does the "physical to…
Episode 271: What the Unfairness Threshold Tells Us About Marriage (and Mental Load!)
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Episode 270: What Does Prioritizing Marriage Look Like? Plus Do You Have to Choose Between Being a Good Wife and a Good Mom?
Prioritizing your marriage can be tough. How do we spend enough time together? Do we need more date nights? And MOMS—don’t forget to be a wife first and a mom second! But in all this ta…
Episode 269: The Marriage Hierarchy of Needs—and Why Compromise Doesn’t Work
Ever tried to find a compromise when you’re having an argument—but even the compromise doesn’t seem fair? In today’s podcast we explain why—using what we call The Marriage Hierarchy of …
Episode 268: Why Data Shows That Teamwork, Not Hierarchy, Is the Key to a Great Marriage!
What is the biggest key to a great marriage? Teamwork! Let’s talk about how teamwork is associated with all the good outcomes we want for marriage—better sex; feeling close; resolving c…
Episode 267: Why Evangelical Marriage Advice Often Backfires
In our research looking at marital and sexual satisfaction among evangelicals, we’ve found that over and over again our best-selling books, and our megachurch pastors, teach things that…
Episode 266: Demolishing the Love and Respect Dichotomy Definitively (with Data)
The idea that men need respect while women need love has been treated as gospel truth in the evangelical world. Best-sellers have been written based on it; it informs almost every marri…
Episode 265: Culture Wars vs. Jesus: How to Not Get Sucked in To Toxic Teachings
So many of us got sucked into believing toxic stuff about marriage and sex in the evangelical church! But unless we figured out WHY we believed that, we’re likely to get suckered in aga…
Episode 264: It’s the Peer Reviewed Celebration! Plus a Plea to Respect Science
Our big announcement: We’re peer-reviewed! Our dataset for The Great Sex Rescue has now appeared in the November 2024 Sociology of Religion Journal. So let’s talk about what we found, b…
Episode 263: Even After Everything—Loving Anyway, Despite the Risks
Advent is normally a time of hopeful expectation. But what does it mean when our hopes have been dashed in the past? Stephanie Duncan Smith shares her stories of miscarriages and losses…
Episode 262: Problems with Marriage on the Rock by Jimmy Evans
Jimmy Evans started XO Marriage over 30 years ago, and his book Marriage on the Rock became a best-seller. He leads marriage conferences around the country. But for years he also Mark D…
Episode 261: Her Rites: The 6 Rites of Passage in a Woman’s Life feat. Christy Bauman
Ever feel like your body is a stranger to you? Like you’re plagued with insecurity, can’t find peace in your relationships? What if it’s because we’re running away from part of who we a…
Episode 260: Shame Must Switch Sides: It’s Not Shameful to NOT Want Pornified Sex
Gisele Pelicot famously said that "shame must switch sides"--and I think that applies to the evangelical church! Over and over again over the last few years ,when male teachers have pre…
Episode 259: Avoiding Power Struggles with Your Kids (Plus are you an unintentionally permissive parent?)
Do you find yourself in constant power struggles with your kids? Do you feel like your kids too often set the terms of their cooperation? Or are you worried that you are too hard and de…
Episode 258: They’re Coming After Bluey Now? What’s Wrong with Involved Fathers?
Why are writers for The Gospel Coalition coming after the dad in the cartoon series Bluey? He’s an involved dad who loves his kids. Why are they so offended? Rick Pidcock joins Rebecca …
Episode 257: Little Girls in Church Parking Lots in BaptistLand
Christa Brown was sexually assaulted dozens of times by her youth pastor when she was 15. She was made to repent and apologize to his wife. The pastor just got moved around from church …
Episode 256: How Should You Handle the Sex Talk with Your Kids?
Talking to your kids about sex & puberty is awkward! And over the years the church has made some big mistakes. Today we talk about how to avoid the biggest ones--and some encouragement …
Episode 255: For Our Daughters—Plus Why Sex Abuse Scandals Keep Happening
We aren’t going to fix the abuse crisis in the church until we deal with the underlying beliefs that actually enable abuse. Today Kristin Kobes Du Mez joins us to talk about her new doc…