Episode 239 - Too Nice Too Quickly in a Relationship Part 1

In Part 1 of this three-part deep dive, we explore why being “too nice” too quickly can backfire—especially when dealing with avoidant partners. Drawing from eight key reflections, this first segment covers shifts 1 through 3, unpacking the subtle behaviours that can unintentionally erode attraction and respect.

We’ll look at how over-giving, rushing emotional intimacy, and neglecting personal boundaries can create imbalance, and why these patterns are often misunderstood as kindness. This episode challenges you to rethink the way you show care in relationships, helping you set a foundation for genuine connection without losing yourself.

0:00 – Opening monologue & episode overview
2:15 – Introduction to “too nice too soon” and avoidant dynamics
5:47 – Shift 1: Recognising over-giving as a form of self-abandonment
12:30 – Why over-investment early on feels needy, not generous
17:55 – Shift 2: The importance of pacing emotional intimacy
24:20 – Avoidant reactions to early emotional overexposure
31:05 – Shift 3: The role of personal boundaries in building respect
37:50 – How to hold space without overextending yourself
43:15 – Closing thoughts for Part 1 and setup for Part 2

relationship advice, dating mistakes, avoidant attachment, emotional boundaries, too nice too soon, over-giving in relationships, dating red flags, emotional intimacy pacing, healthy relationship habits, attraction killers

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