26. You Can’t Set Boundaries When You Don’t Feel Worthy

Burnout isn’t just about doing too much - it’s what happens when you forget your own needs even exist. In this episode, I’m joined by women’s coach and Soul Fire founder Jen Goddard, who shares her powerful story of breaking free from the cycle of overgiving, people-pleasing, and self-sacrifice.

We dive into the emotional truth behind burnout, how our conditioning around being “the strong one” keeps us stuck, and why reclaiming your energy starts with remembering your worth. Jen shares gentle, grounded insights on how to set boundaries without guilt, meet your own needs (even when it feels foreign), and find joy in the everyday again - starting with something as simple as making yourself pancakes.

This conversation is for the woman who feels invisible in her own life - and is ready to come home to herself.

Key Takeaways from This Episode:

✔ You can’t set boundaries if you don’t believe your needs matter.

✔ Burnout is often the result of chronic self-neglect, not overwork.

✔ Boundaries are a form of love - for yourself and your relationships.

✔ Shifting your energy (not always your words) can change relational dynamics.

✔ Self-worth begins with meeting your basic needs - then expanding into desire and joy.

Timestamps & Key Themes:

[00:00] Welcome & episode introduction

[01:12] Jen’s story: From corporate burnout to Soul Fire

[04:53] The invisibility of overgiving and the illusion of success

[07:00] How boundaries help rebuild self-trust and emotional safety

[10:25] People-pleasing, martyrdom, and the resentment loop

[14:00] Why “selfish” is a dirty word - and how to reclaim self-worth

[17:50] Energetic boundaries vs. spoken boundaries

[21:30] Reparenting yourself and holding loving limits

[25:40] The power of micro-joys: pancakes, slime, and zoo gift shops

[30:10] Joy as an act of identity - and how to rediscover yours

[34:45] Final thoughts and where to find Jen online

📌 Resources & Links:

Connect with Jen Goddard:

Website: www.soulfirecoaching.co.uk  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jengoddardofficial/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jen.goddard.12 

📌 Connect with me, Debbie Lucas:

Find out more about the podcast, me and what I do here: www.debbielucas.me/links

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