#20: Understanding Matrescence, Rage, and the Invisible Load with Jessie Harold

What if motherhood wasn’t just something you do, but something you become? In this deeply validating conversation, I’m joined by the incredible Jesse Harold—coach, doula, and author of MotherShift—to explore the often-overlooked transformation known as matrescence: the radical, messy, beautiful evolution of becoming a mother.

We talk about what it really means to navigate this identity shift, why the “bounce back” narrative is damaging, and the real reasons so many of us feel like we’re failing. From invisible labor and motherhood rage to the systemic pressures that leave moms under-resourced and overburdened, we go all the way in.

Episode Highlights:

• 01:59 Understanding Matrescence
• 07:22 The Evolution of Motherhood
• 15:03 The Concept of Self-Tending
• 29:30 Systemic Challenges in Modern Motherhood
• 56:44 Understanding and Validating Motherhood Rage
• 01:03:26 The Mental and Emotional Load in Partnerships
• 01:21:12 Empowering Mothers and Transformation Literacy

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