Breaking the Shame Cycle: Why Seeking Help Is Your Superpower

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Shame has a way of silencing us—especially when speaking up would serve us most. Have you ever tucked away a self-help book when someone walked in? Or made a casual excuse for that personal growth video that “just started playing”? That tiny flicker of concealment reveals something deeper: a quiet belief that needing help means you’re somehow broken.

This belief is part of a cultural myth that strong women should figure it all out alone—and it creates the perfect trap. You can’t grow without acknowledging where you’re struggling, but acknowledging it feels like confirming your inadequacy.

The irony? The most successful, confident, fulfilled people in the world aren’t avoiding help—they’re intentionally seeking it. In fact, 94% of top performers work with coaches. The strongest women don't avoid help—they embrace it as their superpower.

For years, I lived behind a “perfect” image while silently struggling, believing that if I were truly strong, I wouldn’t need support. But the breakthrough came when I realized this: asking for help isn't weakness—it’s wisdom.

In this episode (and this post), we’ll walk through five transformative practices that will help you shift your relationship with support:

1. Conscious Awareness
2. Building an Evidence Portfolio
3. Reframing Help as Strategic Growth
4. Graduated Exposure
5. Embracing Discomfort as Growth

You’ll discover that the discomfort you feel when reaching out isn’t a sign to pull back—it’s proof that you’re standing at the edge of real, powerful growth.

So this week, when shame about needing support tries to creep in, pause and remind yourself: This isn’t weakness—this is wisdom.
Being an Utmost Woman isn’t about having it all together. It’s about doing what matters, from a place rooted in who you truly are.

What if you’re not broken at all? What if… you’ve just been buried?

✨ Take one small step toward support this week—listen to a podcast, journal, or open up to someone you trust. Growth doesn’t have to be big to be brave.

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