100: How to Love Your Avoidant Partner Without Losing Yourself

Navigating Avoidant Attachment in Marriage with Adam Lane Smith This week, I dive into attachment theory with Adam Lane Smith, exploring what it’s really like to be married to an avoidant partner. We discuss how avoidant behaviors are rooted in nervous system responses—not malice—and the roles oxytocin and dopamine play in attachment. Adam explains the difference between ethical and manipulative avoidance and how withdrawal is often a survival mechanism, not a personal attack.

✨ What We Cover In This Episode

➡️ Understanding avoidant attachment in marriage

➡️ Nervous system’s role in partner behaviors

➡️ Oxytocin and dopamine’s influence on connection

➡️ Ethical vs. manipulative avoidance

➡️ How to transform challenging relationship dynamics with compassion

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