Episode 3: What is my purpose without children?

We loved this month’s question because it was so raw, and it’s a topic every woman we know has grappled with on some level: maternity. Whether it’s to become a mother or not, dealing with miscarriages and feeling in some way broken, or not wanting kids and being made to feel by society, somehow, broken too. 

They write:

I live in Victoria, born in Namibia. 63 and never had children purely by circumstance and then later by choice. So often people feel children give them purpose but what do I have to say? The childless one... would love to hear other people's thoughts on this.

-The childless one

We often don’t talk about all our struggles around maternity. It’s often steeped with so much shame. This question hit so powerfully because the childless one, so bravely and matter-of-factly says, in essence, “I don’t know” in a world where we all feel like we are supposed to know, with such certainty, all the time.

Jackie is sitting down with Talia Kleinplatz who grew up always assuming she’d have children, but over the years, allowed herself the space to question what she truly wanted for her life, to say “I don’t know” and the freedom to make a new choice, to not to have children. Her meandering path was full of gentleness, full of intention, and just full of love for herself and her community. Jackie and Talia share their personal journeys around deciding whether or not to become mothers. This conversation is raw and powerful and we hope it opens up an opportunity for continued conversation on a subject that is so often ignored. We hope you got something helpful out of this…if anything, know that you’re not alone. You see, we all struggle, mourn, yearn, question, laugh and cry. No matter our age, background, or titles, at our core, we are all not so different, You & I.

And make sure to tune in until the end of the episode to hear the question for next month. And if you have had the same personal experience and are interested in being a guest of that episode, OR if you have a short word of wisdom, write to us on the contact page on our Website or DM us on Instagram. And of course, please submit your questions there too.

Episode Resources:

Jackie Kai Ellis: Website / Instagram

Talia: Instagram

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