If You Always Feel Like the ‘Bad Guy’—You Might Be Getting Gaslit. Here’s How to Set Boundaries That Stick | Nedra Glover Tawwab (Fan Fav)

This is a Fan Fav episode. I’m diving deep with licensed therapist and boundary-building powerhouse Nedra Glover Tawwab to break down the sneaky, destructive patterns of gaslighting and how you can take your power back. If you’ve ever questioned your own sanity, found yourself apologizing when it’s not your fault, or felt stuck replaying “should have said” conversations in your head—this is the episode you can’t afford to miss.

With Nedra’s signature clarity, honesty, and actionable advice, we cover how to spot manipulation in real time, the critical difference between assertiveness and aggression, the core role childhood plays in our conflict style, and—most importantly—how to cultivate the unshakeable confidence to set boundaries and reclaim your peace.

SHOWNOTES

00:00 – The subtle signs of gaslighting and how to spot manipulative behaviors early

00:53 – Building the confidence to stand up for yourself in toxic relationships

02:12 – Why questioning your own sanity may signal gaslighting—and how to reality-check yourself

05:23 – The hidden cost of always apologizing (even when it’s not your fault)

07:35 – Classic gaslighting tactics: Deflection, lack of apology, and rewriting history

10:47 – The danger of taking on all the blame: Patterns, self-betrayal, and breaking the cycle

14:59 – How Nedra found the courage to finally stop apologizing for things that weren’t hers

19:54 – Nedra’s “practice makes progress” approach to building assertiveness

23:27 – Assertive vs. aggressive: How to stand up for yourself without crossing the line (and what to do when you’re unfairly labeled)

27:58 – Breaking free from people-pleasing: Owning your preferences and ditching the need to “win” every fight

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