17. Is It Really Unfair

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Just wanted to pop on quickly today to share some little nuggets of wisdom that a friend of mine reminded me of this week. I am going through some stuff and feelings of unfairness for me are really triggering. They really impact my inner child; they really make me feel insecure and shameful… unwanted, unwelcome… the works! And when I allow that perspective of something being unfair to wiggle its way into my psyche, it changes everything...

… It changes everything about the way that it interacts with the world, the way that I interact with myself, the way that I interact with my family and when I look at the situation as unfair, I begin creating more chaos, as if to prove that it's unfair, as if to grapple at any straws. That I can claim for my out. And when I decide and it is a decision right every every viewpoint that we take on is a decision. We can say that we feel this way because somebody did this or because we're suddenly in this strange situation.

But regardless of what someone does or says or what's happening around us, we do choose the way that we look at the situation. And so when I look at what is whatever it is that's happening around me as unfair, I am looking for evidence almost every single second to prove that perspective. And if it were the other way around, if if our perspectives were built by facts and truth, then it's highly unlikely that I would come to the conclusion of unfairness. But often our perspective is not built on facts, right. Usually our perspective is built on old circumstances that we don't even remember, perhaps that we don't even know are still inside us running the show. Or it's built on fear, insecurity built on that little inner child that is really needing to be seen and has been forgotten. And so when I have this perspective of unfairness it feeds in me a fight response because I want it to be fair, and God damn it. I'm gonna make it fair.

And my friend reminded me that it's not unfair. In fact, it's not nothing like it's nothing. It's literally nothing. It's just something that happened. And something that's happening. And that's it. And I've mentioned it before in other episodes, that nothing means anything. And when we make everything mean something about us or something about the other person or something about life, gosh, it's exhausting for one thing. And for the second thing, it really is detrimental because

it's true that it just simply means nothing. It doesn't mean that we're wrong or right or worthy or unworthy or that something is unfair. Or that something is fair. The things that are happening in our lives. are simply things that are happening. And the sooner we can just accept it. Oh, this thing happened. Cool. Here's this moment I'm in right now. Okay.

The sooner we can just allow it without making it mean anything about us without taking it on as an insult or even without taking it on as like the greatest praise of life. And just letting it be the sooner we can do that. Gosh, the sooner that we are free. Can you imagine? The next time that you are in a disagreement with your partner? Can you imagine allowing that to simply mean nothing? Just simply just happen? There it is. It doesn't mean anything about you doesn't mean anything about them. And here you're just humans having this weird experience. And then in the next moment it's done.

Gosh, imagine just imagine what that would do for our lives, to have that freedom to stop labeling everything to stop creating these situations where we're becoming victim to an imbalance that we created by having that weird perspective. It's not fair. It's not unfair. It just is. And in what's happening at any moment, we are enough. And we're okay. Even when we're not, it's okay to not be okay. And yes it's okay to feel that things are unfair. But don't hold on to it. Don't Don't make that label. The God that you worship at because it's a false idol. The only divinity to whose feet you should bow is the her own and everything around you simply is none of it means anything about us. Because the truth is that who we are is just right. And we are enough. Thank you so much to pop on today. I truly, truly appreciate you. And I really do believe that you're enough. And I hope today that you can believe that as well. You're very very lucky. Have the most marvelous day!

About Alexis:

Some artists paint what they see. Alexis Christine Wild paints what she feels—and what she hopes you will feel too. Since 2014, her richly textured canvases have woven together bold colour, flowing movement, and hidden words of affirmation, poetry, and intention. Each piece is layered with meaning, as if the artwork itself is whispering, You have permission to be exactly who you are.

From her light-filled home studio in London, Ontario, Alexis creates work that now lives in homes and collections around the world. She is also the host of the Wild Permission podcast and curator of The Space, a vibrant small business incubator where creativity and community meet.

Working mainly with acrylics and plaster on canvas, Alexis invites viewers to come closer—because the deeper you look, the more you find. Her art is both a visual experience and an emotional one, sparking connection to self and others alike.

And Alexis’s creativity doesn’t stop at the canvas. By pairing her art practice with her passion for guiding others, she helps people make bold, aligned moves in their own lives—transforming her work into a living dialogue between courage, self-expression, and meaningful change.