1. Are you going to pick it up?

Wild Permission is your reminder that you already have everything it takes to live the life you want. Your dreams matter. You matter.

Hosted by artist and permission-giver Alexis Christine Wild, this podcast is your space for quick bursts of courage, truth, and joy. Alexis helps you remember who you are—worthy, powerful, and enough—while inviting you to step into your wildest, truest self.

This is your permission slip to follow your desires, trust your heart, and create a beautiful life on your own terms.

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EPISODE TRANSCRIPT

I have a couple of questions for you… a couple ways that you can think about things when it doesn't feel like it is going exactly how you hope it would go. We're human – this is going to happen! Life is sometimes simply not going to go smoothly, easily and shit is going to happen. When that happens we really have two choices. 

1). Woe is me. I'm a martyr. This is so horrible. I'm never gonna survive this. This is the end of my life.

2). All right. This is challenging. I'm up for the challenge. This is happening for me not to me. How can I make this one of the best things that has ever happened in my life?

We can reframe everything this way.

Maybe you are running late. Now a train is coming and you have to wait for the longest train of your life. It's the 10 minute train. You're stuck at the tracks.

Well, this could be the worst thing ever. You could have an anxiety attack, and you could go into a panic … or you can take some deep breaths. You can use this as an opportunity to connect with yourself for a moment. Perhaps you turn the radio to a station you really love. And gosh, you really could even just close your eyes while you wait there for a moment for this train. You could meditate and you could be grateful and think about all the things in your life that are amazing. And when that arm reaches up again, and you're able to cross the tracks, and the lights stop blinking red, you could continue on in a better place than you were before. 

That train was the best thing that's happened to yet that day. It gave you 10 extra minutes to be settled into who you are. I mean, you were already running late anyways. Do you see that we have the power in any circumstance to either sink down and carry this super heavy burden along with us all day long or look at that burden and decide that we're simply not going to pick it up? Now this doesn't mean that burdens don't come. It doesn't mean that life is beautiful all the time. People pass away. Accidents happen. Jobs are lost. But we don't have to pick those burdens up and carry them with us the rest of our lives. We can choose and in the choosing, we also do get to allow ourselves to feel all the feelings. 

So when the arm has come down at the train track, and we are stopped…. Stink. Now I'm going to be more late for work. All right. Let’s have our moment of frustration, perhaps even a bit of anger. And now we are done. We're not going to pick up the burden of anger and carry it with us all day. Because we're going to choose.

Sure, it sounds kind of lofty for me to say, while sitting here in my cozy office where nothing wrong is happening right now. For me to say… you can choose this, even in the worst of times. And there's proof all around you– there are families who have gone through unimaginable hardship. And on the other end, if you didn't know what they had gone through it… you would never know because they're okay.

And so are you.

We have this beautiful, messy human experience. And we can choose to load ourselves down with everything wrong that happens. Piling it up, piling it up, piling it up. 

You're late – put a load on.

The trains is here – put a load on.

You got to work and you were wearing a pair of high heels and the heel broke…. (Wait a second… Now you get to go barefoot out of the office! That’s kind of fun!) OR put a load on?

Then by the end of the day you have noticed it’s all so heavy that you can't take another second of it. I don't know about you but that is not a life I want to live. Yes, don't forget you're human. Sometimes we accidentally pick up the load. BUT you're allowed to change your mind at any time. You're allowed to redirect, you're allowed to change your mind.

In fact, you can even do this in the middle of being angry. Perhaps you could even do this in the middle of having a fight. And here's how it would sound. 

“Oh, just one second. Shoot! That's not really how I want to be with you. Give me a second here to regroup. I'm going to take a breath and let's restart.”

You put down the load. 

You can be so proud. We've kind of been taught that we're supposed to pick this stuff up, right? We're supposed to be angry and sad, but we're also not allowed to show it. 

Don't pick it up.

You don't have to and you can choose to look at it as: this is happening for me. I'm going to find a lesson. I'm going to make this the absolute best thing that happens today. 

It could even just be the best thing because it gave you another opportunity to listen to yourself and to choose yourself first. You've got this….beautiful, messy and all.