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LLS | A 5-Step Plan to Crush Your People-Pleasing Habit (Instantly)

Author
Josh Trent
Published
Fri 11 Jul 2025
Episode Link
https://joshtrent.com/757

Wellness + Wisdom: Liberated Life Series | Episode 757

Join Josh Trent, host of the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast, and Mar, co-host of the Liberated Life Series, as they expose why people pleasing and being nice are a fear-based survival response, how somatic recognition and body awareness can help you shift from people-pleaser to unapologetically you, and how your body shows you when you're being inauthentic.

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Listen To Episode 757 As Josh Trent Uncovers: [00:00] Niceness vs. Kindness
  • The difference between being nice and being kind.
  • Why niceness is an emotional survival response born from fear of not being loved, fear of being alone, and fear of not being worthy.
  • How people pleasing is a conditioned response rather than a personality trait.
[02:35] Somatic Recognition + Body Awareness
  • The most common physical indicators of niceness: facial tension, elevated shoulders, and fast breathing.
  • How the enteric nervous system can detect authenticity within a 6-foot perimeter through micro-facial expressions.
  • Why the body responds half a second before the mind processes input.
[13:05] Language + Identity Transformation
  • How self-identification as 'recovering people pleaser' or 'recovering perfectionist' reinforces the unwanted identity.
  • Why we need to feel emotions rather than bypass them.
  • The three awareness pillars: body awareness, voice/word awareness, and environment awareness.
[15:40] Practical Implementation Strategies
  • How to practice authentic 'no' in low-stakes situations to build courage for high-stakes scenarios.
  • Why 'no' is the greatest gift we can give others, as it demonstrates self-love and trustworthiness.
  • Pre-response check: placing hand on chest, breathing, and asking 'Is what I'm about to say/do aligned with who I am?'.
[19:45] Stop Being a "Nice Girl"
  • Why women struggle with direct communication and tend to avoid conflict through indirect refusal.
  • How nonviolent communication in relationships serves as a model for boundary-setting.
[20:55] Parenting + Generational Patterns
  • How Josh navigates situations where he catches himself telling his son to 'be a good boy.'
  • Why we pass people-pleasing patterns to children if our personal healing work isn't completed.
[22:00] Identity + Values Framework
  • The core self-knowledge questions: 'Who am I? What are my values? What do I stand for? What do I do and why?'
  • What it takes to become'unfuck-withable.'
  • How identity transformation extends cycles of recommitment from multiple daily reversions to weeks between old pattern occurrences.
[25:55] Setting Boundaries in a Workplace
  • The importance of recognizing people-pleasing behavior in a management role.
  • Why we need to be kind but firm in our communication in professional settings to maintain healthy workplace dynamics.

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